Improving Friendship with Friendship Coach Bailey Hurley

In today’s episode of “Helping Families be Happy” podcast, host Dr. Carla Marie Manly, a practicing Clinical Psychologist, Wellness Advocate, and Author based in Sonoma County, California talks with Bailey Hurley, a Friendship Coach, a Writer, and a Speaker about her upcoming book ‘Together is a Beautiful Place’. The book talks about all the barriers that keep you away from togetherness and what you can do to make sure that you are fighting back against it.

 

Episode Highlights

• 02:40: Bailey says besides being a Coach, Writer, and Speaker, she is mostly a mom.
• 04:40 - Some women who approached Bailey were in a serious situation, or some hurt words that had been shared.
• 06:30 – Bailey gives tips to a new mom who is feeling isolated and has no one to connect to.
• 08:25 - For every person who's feeling alone and isolated there's somebody probably within steps of you, who is feeling the same, says Dr. Carla Marie Manly.
• 10:50 – Nostalgic Friendships are unhealthy friendships that we cling to because we feel like they stood next to us on our wedding day.
• 13:05 - Guilt certainly does keep people doing things that might not be the healthiest for them, mentions Dr. Carla Marie Manly.
• 15:10 - Being a genuine and trustworthy friend doesn't mean that mistakes aren't made.
• 16:46 - Dr. Carla Marie Manly points out that it's so important to have quality than quantity friendships.
• 19:20 - When you have a healthy friendship, you're teaching your kids what healthy friendships look like.

 

Three Key Points

1. Bailey states that whether you are a new mom or an older person, you need to be a little bit proactive about those friendships where you just leave a conversation that felt a connection with someone and hope that you should catch up soon, but there's no contact number taken. Moms have the flexibility to carry on friendships, maybe in the workday to get to catch up with a friend.
2. There's some research out there that these vague relationships are just as harmful as having no relationship at all because you're in this constant state of wondering, are we friends or not?
3. Bailey’s book ‘Together is a Beautiful Place’ will be out in April and you can pre-order it now. The book is all about acknowledging the loneliness that we feel. Instead of allowing loneliness to kind of make you an outsider, you can choose to fight for togetherness. It's those safe friends that allow you to grow into who you're meant to be. 

 

Tweetable Quotes

• “Reading is such a wonderful way to connect.”– Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “I always like to check in and say like, how's it going?” - Bailey Hurley
• “Be the first one to say, hey, I'm looking for friends and interested in getting together with you.” - Bailey Hurley
• “I like to call those friendships, nostalgic friendships.” - Bailey Hurley
• “It's not a healthy place to constantly sitting in and wondering what's going on.” - Bailey Hurley
• “Your book is out in April of 2022, I'm absolutely thrilled and so excited.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “When you are becoming a good friend to your peers, you're also modeling good friendship to your kiddos.” - Bailey Hurley

 

Resources Mentioned

• Helping Families be Happy Podcast Apple
• Dr. Carla Marie Manly Website LinkedIn Twitter   Instagram
• Bailey T Hurley Website Instagram
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