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With help from guest authors, experts, and community and business leaders, the Familius Helping Families Be Happy podcast explores topics and issues that connect families to the nine habits of a happy family: love, play, learn, work, talk, heal, read, eat, and laugh together.
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Homesteading with Kids
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Homesteading with Kids
In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, host Adina Oberman interviews author and homesteader Carolyn Bennett Fraiser. Carolyn shares her journey into modern-day homesteading, emphasizing the movement's focus on self-sustainability and healthy living. She talks about her new children's book, M is for Mason Jar: A Homesteading Alphabet , inspired by the principles of homesteading and the experiences of creating it. The conversation explores how families can incorporate homesteading practices into their lives, no matter their living situation, and discusses the broader messages of lifestyle reflection and education conveyed through her book.
Episode Highlights
00:00:10: Introduction to the podcast and guest Carolyn Bennett Fraiser, who is a homesteader and author.
00:01:12: Explanation of modern-day homesteading and its distinction from pioneer homesteading.
00:02:09: Carolyn shares her personal journey into homesteading, initially sparked by health issues.
00:03:35: The inception of Carolyn's children's book during the COVID pandemic as a challenge from her husband.
00:05:14: Discussion of the various applications of homesteading and the importance of self sustainability for families.
00:08:44: Carolyn emphasizes that homesteading is a family activity involving every member.
00:09:27: The book aims to introduce children to homesteading concepts and serve as a resource for families.
00:12:19: Carolyn hopes the book inspires conversations within families about homesteading practices.
00:12:51: Information on where to find Carolyn's book and online presence.
Key Takeaways
Homesteading is adaptable and can be practiced in various environments, emphasizing self sustainability and healthy living.
Engagement and encouragement from family members can play a pivotal role in pursuing creative endeavors.
Homesteading can serve as an educational tool for children, introducing them to concepts of self-sufficiency and environmental care.
The book provides both a reflection for homesteading families and an educational window for those unfamiliar with the lifestyle.
Tweetable Quotes
"Modern day homesteading is more of a movement, a state of mind where we focus on living off the land and using our resources properly."
"Wherever you are, you can make it work on some level. It's just a matter of stepping in and trying it out."
"Homesteading really is kind of like a family activity. You just can't have one person in a house who's into homesteading and it doesn't involve everybody else."

Wednesday Jul 09, 2025
The Problem with Book Banning with Jan Zauzmer
Wednesday Jul 09, 2025
Wednesday Jul 09, 2025
Book Banning with Jan Zauzmer
The podcast episode explores the topic of book banning and features guest author Jan Zomer discussing her new children's book, "Down with Lime Books." The book addresses the theme of censorship through a metaphorical story using lime-colored books. Jan shares her inspiration for writing the book, highlighting the surge in book banning attempts and her desire to present big civic topics to children in an engaging and educational manner. The conversation also delves into the creative process behind the book and its potential to foster meaningful discussions about freedom of expression.
Episode Highlights
00:00:10: Host Adina Oberman introduces the podcast and guest, Jan Zomer, discussing her book, "Down with Lime Books," which addresses book banning using lime-colored books as a metaphor.
00:01:20: Jan Zauzmer shares the inspiration behind her book and the theme of book banning, aiming to raise awareness among children about the freedom to read.
00:02:06: Description of the book's story, where lime green books are removed by a town official, and children stand up for their right to read.
00:02:36: Jan explains the choice of the color lime for the book, highlighting its symbolism and appeal for children.
00:04:02: Discussion of the book’s symbols, including Paige's megaphone and the power of youth to make their voices heard.
00:05:13: Jan describes a favorite scene, highlighting the importance of civic participation and the creative process involved in writing the book.
00:07:02: The book's relevance to current discussions on book banning, its timeless themes, and efforts to document bans by organizations.
00:09:34: Jan expresses her hopes for the book's impact on children, encouraging them to cherish and protect the freedom to read.
00:11:00: Insights into Jan’s research process, including reading reports and articles on book banning and censorship.
00:13:18: Jan shares her journey to becoming a children's book author, emphasizing her goals to introduce important societal topics to children.
00:15:21: Jan acknowledges her team and family for their support, concluding with hopes for the book's success and impact.
Key Takeaways
Children can be introduced to serious topics like censorship through engaging stories that incorporate symbolism and metaphors.
Rising book banning highlights the importance of freedom of expression, revealing an ongoing need for advocacy and awareness.
The collaborative effort in publishing, from writing to illustrations and marketing, plays a critical role in bringing a book to life.
Fostering conversations about book bans and civic participation can empower both children and adults to stand up for their rights.
Tweetable Quotes
"Will the kids take a stand when the line books are banned?" - Jan Zauzmer
"I want the kids in the real world to grow up to celebrate and protect books from those who would snatch them." - Jan Zauzmer
"Book banning is nothing new. Censorship dates back hundreds of years." - Zauzmer

Wednesday Jul 02, 2025
Earth Rover Mission with Taylor Woolley
Wednesday Jul 02, 2025
Wednesday Jul 02, 2025
Earth Rover Mission with Taylor Woolley
In this episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Adina Oberman chats with Taylor Woolley, an author and illustrator based in Atlanta, Georgia. They discuss Taylor's book, "Earth Rover," which is inspired by her late mini dachshund, Snoopy, and explores themes of S.T.E.M through imagination and storytelling. Taylor shares the creative process behind her story and its alignment with themes of dreaming big, perseverance, and challenging stereotypes. Additionally, she announces her upcoming work "Birthday Bash" and invites listeners to connect with her through her website and social media.
Episode Highlights
00:00:10: Introduction to the podcast and special guest Taylor Woolley, discussing her background and the inspiration behind her work.
00:01:28: Taylor expresses enthusiasm about being a guest on the podcast.
00:01:30: Query on the origin of "Earth Rover" and the influence of dogs on Taylor's storytelling.
00:01:46: Taylor recounts the inspiration derived from her late dog, Snoopy, and how it led to the creation of Rover's character.
00:02:54: The story of Rover and the creative process behind his character evolution. 00:03:33: Discussion on familial support and dedication during the book's production phase.
00:04:08: Observations on how the book reflects Taylor's passion, leading to intriguing storytelling.
00:05:03: Insights into S.T.E.M importance in storytelling and the significance of role models in various professions.
00:06:04: The book's underlying message on assumptions, perceptions, and the limitless possibilities for dreamers.
00:07:27: Creative process in blending pet ownership with the imaginative exploration of space.
00:08:27: Impact of real-world events on creative storytelling and Taylor's thoughts on narrative inspiration.
00:08:57: Announcement of Taylor's new book, "Birthday Bash," and her enthusiasm for upcoming projects.
00:09:23: Final engagement techniques and how listeners can connect with Taylor. 00:09:45: Information on where to purchase "Earth Rover" and concluding remarks. 00:09:57: Closing, appreciation for listeners, and encouragement for further engagement.
Key Takeaways
The importance of combining personal experiences with creativity to inspire storytelling. The value of exploring STEM topics through imaginative and relatable narratives. Encouragement for young audiences to dream big and challenge traditional roles and assumptions.
The influence of real-world events on creative inspiration and storytelling.
Tweetable Quotes
"Dream big regardless of whether you can see somebody else in that situation already." -Taylor Woolley
"Just because somebody doesn't look like you in the role currently doesn't mean that you should dream smaller." -Taylor Woolley
"Imagination knows no bounds, especially when your storytelling is inspired by a special companion." -Adina Oberman
Show Notes by Barevalue.

Thursday Jun 19, 2025
Four Walks in Central Park with Aaron Poochigian
Thursday Jun 19, 2025
Thursday Jun 19, 2025
Four Walks in Central Park with Aaron Poochigian
In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, host Christopher Robbins engages in a conversation with Aaron Poochigian, a poet and classicist, about his new book "Four Walks in Central Park." The book is notable for its unique genre, a poetic guidebook to Central Park, a renowned urban park in Manhattan. The conversation delves into the historical significance of Central Park, its planning and construction phases, as well as the park's evolution over time. Aaron also shares insights into the discipline of didactic poetry and how it can serve as an instructional yet engaging form of literature.
Listeners can explore the intricacies of Central Park and its details through Aaron's poetic depiction, which aims to provide an immersive experience akin to experiencing the park itself.
Episode Highlights
00:00:09: Introduction to the podcast and guest Aaron Poochigian, discussing family, love, relationships, and Aaron's credentials and upcoming book.
00:01:52: Aaron thanks for being on the show and notes the rainy weather in New York.
00:02:01: Conversation on being on different coasts and the benefits of technology for
communication.
00:02:14: Aaron provides a brief history of Central Park, its origins, and important figures like Frederick Olmsted.
00:03:32: Details on the landscape design competition and the contributions of Olmsted and Calvert Vaux.
00:04:45: Discussion of Seneca Village and the transformation of the area for Central Park.
00:05:49: Exploration of the theme of artificial nature and the park's construction process.
00:06:42: Explanation of what constitutes a "landscaped park."
00:07:50: Details on the creation and design elements of Central Park, like the reservoirs and drainage systems.
00:08:28: Mention of the park's completion and opening, including the establishment of the zoo.
00:09:10: Conversation about Central Park's decline in the past and its revitalization in the
1980s.
00:10:11: Historical context on the park's periods of decline and renovation.
00:10:52: The role of the Central Park Conservancy in park maintenance.
00:11:56: Introduction to Aaron's book and the concept of a guidebook in poetic form.
00:12:56: Aaron explains why he chose poetry as the medium for his guidebook.
00:13:41: Discussion of how poetry helps avoid rambling and focuses on sensory details.
00:14:25: Inspiration behind creating a poetic guidebook to Central Park.
00:15:27: Connection to ancient didactic poetry and the revival of the genre.
00:17:04: The importance of new poetry genres and Aaron’s contribution.
00:17:54: Linking Japanese forest bathing with Central Park and Aaron's book.
00:19:39: Aaron's favorite place in Central Park—The Delacorte Theater.
00:20:27: Discussion of Central Park's ongoing construction and renovation projects.
00:21:26: Conclusion of the episode with information on where to find Aaron and purchase the book.
Key Takeaways
- Didactic poetry offers a unique method of storytelling and education, merging immersive sensory details with instructional content.
- Central Park’s creation was a monumental task involving transformation of undesirable land into a vibrant urban oasis.
- The park’s history of decline and rejuvenation underscores the importance of conservation efforts and community involvement.
- Mindfulness and intentionality, akin to Shinrin-yoku, can offer substantial wellness benefits and enhance one's experiential quality of life.
Tweetable Quotes
- "In the poetry, where I hope the poem will be immersive, that's where Shin Rin Yoku comes in." – Aaron Poochigian.
- "Poetry serves its purpose well, in the book for a number of reasons...I wanted the book to be an immersive experience." – Aaron Poochigian.
- "Central Park is like a giant birthday cake where nature is the icing on it." – Aaron Poochigian.
- "Didactic poetry serves to teach but in a beautiful, enduring way." – Aaron Poochigian.
- "There's a lot of construction in Central Park right now... it's like Manhattan, forever under construction." – Aaron Poochigian.
Show Notes by Barevalue.

Wednesday Jun 11, 2025
Get Grilling with Aly Romero
Wednesday Jun 11, 2025
Wednesday Jun 11, 2025
In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, the host, Adina Oberman, is joined by Aly Romero, a private chef and cookbook author. Aly shares insights into her culinary journey and the inspiration behind her cookbook, "Gas Fire Heat," particularly her passion for outdoor cooking.
The conversation highlights her experiences and techniques with grilling, smoking, and griddling, encouraging listeners to explore these as enjoyable family and social activities. Additionally, Aly discusses her collaboration with Traeger and provides a glimpse into her upcoming book, set for release in 2026.
Episode Highlights
00:00:09: Introduction to the podcast and today's guest, Aly Romero, a chef and cookbook author, focusing on her culinary background and experience.
00:01:11: Discussion about outdoor cooking with a focus on grilling and smoking, and an introduction to Aly's first book, "Gas Fire Heat."
00:02:04: Insight into the philosophy of taking traditional barbecue to a new level with cultural and flavor enhancements.
00:02:43: Aly's inspiration for outdoor cooking, emphasizing family engagement and lifestyle experience.
00:04:16: Tips for newcomers to grilling, leveraging familiarity with indoor cooking techniques outside.
00:05:41: Introduction to Aly's upcoming projects and her unique approach, including influences from diverse cuisines due to extensive travel and personal cultural connections.
00:07:31: Explanation of griddling techniques and how they can expand outdoor cooking potential beyond traditional methods.
00:09:19: Sneak peek into Aly's new cookbook, highlighting creative uses and practical cooking tips.
00:11:08: Aly's work with Traeger and the enriching experience at the Traeger Summit, showcasing communal passion for food.
00:14:07: Reflection on the versatility and practicality of her cookbook as a gift for occasions like Mother's and Father's Day.
00:15:08: Information on how listeners can follow Aly Romero online and access further cooking resources.
00:16:12: Conclusion of the podcast episode, mentioning the publishing timeline of Aly's upcoming book.
Key Takeaways
- Outdoor cooking can seamlessly integrate into family life, creating enjoyable and interactive meal preparations.
- Grilling doesn't have to be complex and can draw from familiar indoor cooking skills to provide a new dimension to culinary experiences.
- Embracing a wide variety of cultural influences can revitalize traditional barbecue dishes, adding unique flavors and techniques.
- Community and common love for food foster exceptional learning and sharing experiences, as exemplified by Aly's experience with Traeger.
Tweetable Quotes
- “Anything you can cook inside, you can cook outside.”
“Take the cooking out of being a chore and make it more of a lifestyle experience.” - “Grilling is not rocket science; it opens a whole new world of being together outdoors.”
“There's always something new to learn when it comes to authentic ways of cooking.”
“Food brings everybody together from all walks of life.”
Show Notes by Barevalue.

Wednesday Jun 04, 2025
Comforting Children During Big Changes with Author Melissa T. Shultz
Wednesday Jun 04, 2025
Wednesday Jun 04, 2025
In this episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Adina Oberman converses with Melissa T. Shultz, discussing her latest children's book, "What Will I Do if I Miss You." Melissa shares intimate details about the inspiration behind the book arising from a heartfelt moment with her son, Alex, and how it serves as a valuable tool for empowering children during transitions such as starting school. They further explore strategies on introducing this comforting technique to children and how it aids in managing concerns related to separation from parents. Both the guest and the host emphasize the importance of parent-child communication in helping children adapt confidently to new experiences.
Episode Highlights
00:00:10: Introduction to the podcast and hosting guest Melissa T. Shultz.
00:01:26: Melissa expresses her delight in joining the podcast.
00:01:28: Discussion on how Melissa’s book "What will I do if I Miss You" is relevant to families preparing for school.
00:01:46: Melissa explains the true story and inspiration behind her book, involving her son Alex’s feelings about starting school.
00:02:50: The concept of feeling connected through a heart-beating technique is introduced as a comforting tool.
00:03:08: Adina praises the book scene that resonates with parents experiencing separation from their children.
00:04:04: Conversation continues on how Melissa invented the method of using heartbeats to connect with her son.
00:05:01: Melissa reflects on parenting and the shared strategy between parents for new experiences.
00:05:58: Adina appreciates Melissa's approach and relates it to preschool teaching experiences.
00:06:46: Adina shares a personal experience with teaching transition strategies to children.
00:08:06: Highlighting the role of the book as a recurring tool for varying life transitions in children.
00:09:05: Melissa shares how communication with teachers can be helpful to support the child's transition.
00:09:50: Emphasizing the importance of normalizing and verbalizing worries to children.
00:10:46: The practice of reminding children about their parents’ presence during challenging transitions is discussed.
00:11:54: The story about Alex's adaptation to school using the signal technique is shared.
00:12:30: Adina highlights the value of special jobs and visits to classrooms to ease children into new environments.
00:14:07: Introductory moments for discussing new experiences and transitions with children are suggested.
00:15:14: Melissa shares tips to introduce comforting methods to children in a relaxed space.
00:18:02: Melissa discusses holding meaningful late-night conversations with her sons.
00:19:28: Melissa provides information on where listeners can find her work online.
00:19:59: Concluding the podcast with thanks and an invitation to join future book adventures with Familius.
Key Takeaways
- Using simple, comforting techniques like feeling a heartbeat can ease children’s worries during transitions such as starting school.
- Communication with educators about your child’s strategies can beneficially support their adaptation process.
- Creating safe, calming spaces for children to express their feelings can strengthen parent-child relationships.
- Emphasizing clear communication and acknowledgment of children's emotions can empower them in challenging situations.
Shareable Quotes
- "Even if Alex had not said anything to me about being worried, I think you don't know what your child's going to feel like when they approach the school." - Melissa T. Shultz
- "I remember saying to Alex, 'I felt you, I got your signal, did you get my signal back?' And so it was kind of playing along with that." - Melissa T. Shultz
- "The book serves as a valuable tool for empowering children during transitions such as beginning school." - Adina Oberman
Show Notes by Barevalue.

Wednesday May 28, 2025
Teaching Perseverance Through Sports: Babe Ruth’s Enduring Influence with Kelly Bennett
Wednesday May 28, 2025
Wednesday May 28, 2025
In this episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, Christopher Robbins, host and co-founder of Familius Publishing, converses with author Kelly Bennett. They delve into Bennett's book "Out of the Mouth of Babe," which explores the life and legacy of baseball legend Babe Ruth.
The discussion covers Ruth's early life challenges and his indelible impact on baseball and popular culture. Bennett shares anecdotes and quotes from Ruth, illustrating how his character and achievements offer valuable lessons in perseverance, teamwork, and positivity. The episode highlights how understanding Ruth's history can inspire both children and adults today.
Episode Highlights
00:00:10: Introduction to the podcast and Kelly Bennett's background as a writer and her fascination with Babe Ruth's legacy.
00:01:13: Description of Kelly's career and personal interests, including her MFA and lifelong love for storytelling and baseball.
00:02:25: Discussion on Kelly's four grandsons and their baseball activities, emphasizing that baseball is a major part of their lives.
00:04:02: Insight into Babe Ruth's early life, highlighting his upbringing in an orphanage and the
challenges he overcame.
00:05:17: Kelly discusses how Ruth's passion for sports and perseverance led him to greatness, despite a difficult start in life.
00:07:03: Introduction of quotes from Babe Ruth reflecting his understanding of teamwork and life
lessons.
00:08:07: Discussion of Babe's articulate nature and ability to inspire teammates and the public with his words.
00:10:01: Kelly talks about Ruth's status as the first superstar athlete and how he became a cultural icon.
00:12:18: The story of Babe Ruth's kindness and genuine enjoyment in mingling with fans and children.
00:13:30: Anecdote about Ruth's interaction with a young boy, Ray Kelly, proving his positive influence on kids.
00:16:23: Closing thoughts on Babe Ruth's enduring legacy, the release of Bennett's book, and her blog for further engagement.
Key Takeaways
- Babe Ruth overcame significant childhood adversity, displaying resilience that propelled him to legendary status.
- Ruth's legacy is celebrated not only for his athletic accomplishments but also for his generosity and connection with fans.
- Understanding Babe Ruth's approach to life and baseball offers valuable lessons in perseverance and teamwork.
- The episode provides insight into how storytelling can capture the multifaceted nature of an iconic sports figure.
Shareable Quotes
- "A fellow has to have something besides curly hair about his shoulders. He's gotta know his onions." - Babe Ruth
- "You've gotta practice and practice and practice some more. That's all it is to baseball." -Babe Ruth
- "The greatest curveball in the world isn't worth a dime if you don't know what to do with it."
- - Babe Ruth
Show Notes by Barevalue.

Wednesday May 21, 2025
Put Down the Phone and Look Up: Exploring the Night Sky with Christopher Robbins
Wednesday May 21, 2025
Wednesday May 21, 2025
In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, host Adina Oberman welcomes Christopher Robbins, the founder of Familius. The discussion primarily revolves around stargazing, encouraging families to look up at the night sky, and immersing themselves in the wonders beyond our world. Christopher shares personal anecdotes and offers suggestions for engaging with space and astronomy. The episode also promotes some of Christopher's published works, including his latest book "Space Train," and provides resources for those keen to start their star-gazing journey.
Episode Highlights
00:00:10: Introduction to the podcast and welcome to Christopher Robbins.
00:01:40: Christopher discusses the importance and joy of stargazing and putting down phones
to experience the universe.
00:02:04: Christopher shares a personal story about watching a meteor shower at Lake Powell.
00:02:57: Advice on putting down phones to enjoy and explore the night sky.
00:03:33: Challenges of disconnecting from phones and the impact of creating family memories
while stargazing.
00:04:23: Discussion on what is visible with the naked eye during stargazing.
00:05:19: Reflection on human history and navigation using stars like the North Star.
00:06:36: Explanation of visible planets and celestial bodies such as the Andromeda Galaxy.
00:07:37: The significance of understanding perspectives in the context of space.
00:08:40: Christopher's favorite galaxy and its significance.
00:09:25: Personal family experiences of stargazing and its impact.
00:10:14: Christopher's perspective on conservation in the context of space exploration.
00:10:37: Resources and tools for beginner stargazers, including online sites and apps.
00:13:13: Combining phone apps with naked eye stargazing for a hybrid experience.
00:13:41: Discussion about earthsky.org to check visibility and cloud cover for stargazing.
00:14:20: Christopher shares about visible Northern Lights and local stargazing opportunities.
00:14:41: Closing details about connecting with Christopher and finding his books online.
00:15:28: Promotion of other books related to space offered by Familius.
Key Takeaways
- Encourage family bonding and appreciation for the universe by engaging in stargazing.
The importance of reducing screen time to engage with the real world and create lasting
memories. - Basic astronomical knowledge can be appreciated without fancy equipment; curiosity and
initiative are key. - Utilize online resources and apps to enhance the stargazing experience and educate further.
Respect and conservation of our planet are emphasized through the perspective gained from
space exploration.
Tweetable Quotes
- "Put down the phone, go outside and look up." - Christopher Robbins
- "Looking up at the stars, we're reminded of our place in the universe." - Adina Oberman
- "Curiosity is contagious, right?" - Christopher Robbins
- "We are on an island in the middle of the universe." - Christopher Robbins
Show Notes by Barevalue.

Wednesday May 14, 2025
Teaching Kids Kindness Through Painted Rocks: Megan Murphy’s Mission
Wednesday May 14, 2025
Wednesday May 14, 2025
In this episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy Podcast," host Adina Oberman converses with Megan Murphy, the founder of the Kindness Rocks Project and author of the children’s book "Kindness Rocks." Megan shares the impactful journey of her grassroots initiative which encourages spreading kindness through painted rocks, a project that has garnered global participation. They discuss the project's significance, how it beautifully intersects with art therapy and emotional healing, especially in times of trauma, and Megan’s personal experiences that shaped the project. The episode highlights the transformation possible through small acts of
kindness and the importance of being mindful of the environment while engaging in these activities.
Episode Highlights
00:00:09: Introduction to the podcast and host Adina Oberman.
00:01:25: Guest Megan Murphy is introduced, highlighting her initiatives and works.
00:03:01: Megan Murphy expresses excitement about discussing her new book.
00:03:06: Megan describes the origin and personal motivations behind the Kindness Rocks Project.
00:05:29: The positive impact of the project on people is discussed, with personal stories shared.
00:09:06: Megan shares details and the intentions behind her children's book, "Kindness Rocks."
00:11:28: Discussion on how the project aids communities during traumatic events.
00:14:02: The importance of the Leave No Trace principle in relation to kindness rocks.
00:15:58: Key takeaways intended from the book "Kindness Rocks."
00:18:50: How listeners can connect with Megan Murphy and learn more about the project.
00:19:19: Conclusion of the podcast episode.
Key Takeaways
- The Kindness Rocks Project emphasizes spreading kindness through small, meaningful gestures.
- Art therapy and community engagement can aid in emotional healing, especially for children.
- The book "Kindness Rocks" serves as a conversational tool for discussing emotions and kindness with children.
- It’s important to practice environmental mindfulness with Leave No Trace when placing kindness rocks.
Shareable Quotes
- "One kindness rock at a time, we can make the world a happier place."
- "We never really know who's in need of kindness."
- "The essence of Kindness Rocks is treating everyone with kindness, not knowing what could be going on behind the scenes."
- "Focusing on happy little shiny moments in your day is really important."
Show Notes by Barevalue.

Wednesday May 07, 2025
How to Raise Empathetic Kids in a Divisive World with Jessica Speer
Wednesday May 07, 2025
Wednesday May 07, 2025
In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, host Christopher Robbins interviews Jessica Spear, an award-winning author, about the complexities of relationships, particularly among preteens and teens. They discuss how to handle situations where friendships suddenly turn difficult and offer guidance for parents helping their children navigate these challenging times.
Speer emphasizes the importance of empathy, co-regulation in emotional situations and offers valuable advice for maintaining and mending friendships even amidst differences. The episode also offers strategies for adults feeling isolated, highlighting the significance of close friendships and how to nurture them over time.
Episode Highlights
00:00:10: Christopher Robbins introduces the podcast and guest Jessica Spear, discussing her books and expertise in navigating friendships.
00:01:10: Jessica Spear describes her writing focus and educational background, framing the discussion on relationships.
00:01:51: Dialogue begins with a focus on the complexities and challenges of modern relationships in a divisive world.
00:03:11: Christopher shares a personal story about his daughter's upsetting experience with a friend.
00:04:05: Jessica offers advice on empathizing with children when friendships falter, emphasizing the learning nature of social skills.
00:06:11: Discussion on how stress and anxiety impact decision-making and the importance of calming techniques.
00:06:48: Role of parents in emotionally supporting children through co-regulation and healthy emotional management.
00:09:11: Introduction to another personal scenario about feeling isolated despite being friendly and outgoing.
00:10:24: Jessica explains that feelings of loneliness are common and offers strategies to help children find connections.
00:12:26: Christopher shares his method of maintaining lifelong friendships through regular, simple
gestures.
00:14:22: Addressing conflict within close relationships, Jessica discusses strategies for setting boundaries and apologies.
00:18:13: Jessica’s final thoughts include the importance of controlling our own actions in improving relationships.
00:19:18: Christopher concludes the podcast, providing information on where to find Jessica Spear's work and advice on nurturing friendships.
Key Takeaways
- Fostering emotional intelligence and empathy in children is crucial when they face friendship challenges.
- Close friendships are rare and valuable, and they require effort and understanding to maintain.
- Parents play a crucial role in co-regulating children's emotions and setting a calm example.
- Boundaries and effective apologies are key in repairing and maintaining strong relationships.
- Regular, thoughtful gestures can help sustain lifelong friendships.
Shareable Quotes
"We can only control ourselves, and there's so much we can do in any situation right now." – Jessica Spear
"Close friendships are hard to find, and that's perfectly normal." – Jessica Spear
"Help children recognize and manage big emotions when hard things happen." – Jessica Spear
"Remember, it's not what you said, but how you made them feel that people remember most." – Jessica
Spear
"Emotional intelligence can help in navigating the messy world of friendships and family dynamics." –Christopher Robbins
Show Notes by Barevalue.