The Art of Balance: Parenting, Career, and Self-Care with Carly Shoulders

Carly Shoulders Podcast 

In this episode, Adina Oberman, a mom and former preschool teacher, explores the themes of work-life balance and making life with kids easier with Carly Shoulders, a former educator turned insurance professional and resin artist. They delve into the challenges and insights of parenting, the pressure to "do it all," and the personal journeys that led them to make significant career and life changes to prioritize family and self-care. 

 

Episode Highlights 

00:00:09 - Adina Oberman introduces the podcast, focusing on the messy yet beautiful aspects of family, love, and relationships. She welcomes guest Carly Shoulders, highlighting her background as a mother, former educator, and her current roles in the insurance industry and as a resin artist.

00:01:13 - Carly shares her journey from being an educator to finding a balance that allows her to pursue her passions and spend more time with her family. This transition was sparked by the realization that her job was not allowing her to be the parent she wanted to be, leading her to seek a career that offered better work-life harmony.

00:02:16 - The concept of giving 100% in life is discussed, with Carly explaining how splitting her energy between work and family has led to a healthier balance for her. This ideology is rooted in an understanding that it's not feasible to give your all to every aspect of life every single day.
 

00:03:23 - Carly discusses the pivotal moment when she realized that her professional life had to change. Seeking advice from a counselor, she faced the question of whether her current path was what she truly wanted for her life. This led to a deeper reflection on her values and what it means to be fulfilled.

00:04:19 - The topic of self-care and how it relates to being a parent and professional is addressed. Carly and Adina talk about the importance of assessing one's capacity daily to adequately allocate energy to different aspects of life, including self-care. 00:05:12 - Carly emphasizes the societal pressure on women, particularly mothers, to "do it all" and how unhealthy this expectation can be. She advocates for a more balanced approach that allows for personal well-being and fulfillment.

00:06:03 - Adina reflects on her own experience, resonating with Carly's journey. They discuss the societal and internal pressures parents face, highlighting the importance of making personal choices that lead to happiness and balance.

00:07:07 - Carly recounts a breaking point caused by workplace toxicity, which reinforced her decision to change careers. This moment of clarity led her to prioritize her well-being and family life over societal expectations of success.

00:08:07 - The positive impact of Carly's career change on her family is highlighted. Working from home and having more control over her work-life balance has led to a more fulfilling and happy family life. 

 

00:09:09 - Carly speaks to the empowerment that comes from making life changes for one's happiness and well-being. She encourages listeners to not be afraid of changing their path, as personal growth often requires new directions.

00:10:03 - The discussion shifts to how societal expectations can clash with personal needs and happiness. Both Carly and Adina share their experiences with career changes and how these decisions were critical to finding personal and family happiness. 

 

00:11:06 - Carly's entrance into the world of resin art as a form of self-care and creative expression is explored. This new passion provided her with a therapeutic outlet and a way to connect with her interests and talents. 

 

00:12:24 - The conversation concludes with a focus on Carly's social media presence, where she aims to support other parents with resources, tips, and personal experiences. Her journey underscores the importance of finding one's path to happiness and fulfillment. 

Key Takeaways 

Finding a balance between professional aspirations and family life is crucial for personal happiness and well-being. The concept of giving 100% doesn't mean splitting your energy equally among tasks but understanding your limits and allocating your energy in a way that aligns with your values and needs.

 

Social support and community can significantly impact mental health and parenting. Finding or creating spaces that offer support and understanding can be incredibly beneficial. 

 

Self-care is not only about personal relaxation but also about making life choices that reflect one's true needs and desires, even if that means making significant changes. 

Tweetable Quotes 

"You're enough, no matter what you're giving and no matter what your situation is." - Carly Shoulders 

 

"It's not feasible to give your all to every aspect of life every single day." - Carly Shoulders 

 

"We're all human, we're all in this together, and you are enough no matter what." - Carly Shoulders 

Show Notes by Barevalue.