Helping Families Be Happy

Balancing Act: Thriving as a Parent and Professional with Louise Webster

In this inspiring episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, host Christopher Robbins sits down with Louise Webster, author and founder of BeyondtheSchoolRun.com, to explore revolutionary approaches for mothers to utilize their skills and talents while their children are at school. The conversation delves deep into the potential for parents to maintain their professional growth and personal fulfillment during the parenting years, highlighting the importance of flow, autonomy, and purpose in achieving a balanced life. 

Episode Highlights: 

00:00:10 - Christopher Robbins introduces the podcast's focus on family, love, relationships, and the day's guest, Louise Webster, discussing her mission with Beyondtheschoolrun.com and her book, "A New Way For Mothers." Robbins ties the discussion back to the Famis habits' theme of learning together, establishing the episode's purpose to explore how mothers can integrate their professional and personal growth during their children's school hours. 

00:01:23 - Louise Webster expresses gratitude for the platform to share her work and book, setting the stage for a comprehensive exploration of Beyond the School Run's goals, her inspiration for its creation, and the impact it aims to have on mothers looking for fulfillment beyond traditional parenting roles. 

00:01:43 - Webster details the inception of Beyond the School Run, its mission to empower mothers personally and professionally, and her motivation stemmed from personal experience and the observed need for a supportive community for mothers in transition periods. This initiates the discussion on the movement towards flexible, meaningful work aligned with parenting responsibilities. 

00:04:33 - The conversation shifts towards the evolving landscape of work opportunities for mothers and parents at home, highlighting the shift in corporate attitudes toward remote work and flexible schedules. Webster underscores the untapped value in the parent workforce, emphasizing efficiency, responsibility, and the unique perspectives parents bring to the professional world. 

00:07:48 - Christopher Robbins links the discussion to the broader theme of autonomy, mastery, and purpose in unlocking personal motivation, touching on societal shifts towards accommodating and valuing the parenting role alongside professional aspirations. 

00:08:43 - The focus turns to practical advice for parents looking to rediscover or redefine their professional interests and talents during the limited hours when their children are in school. Webster offers strategies for self-exploration, staying present, and testing new paths, illustrating the process of aligning personal growth with parenting. 

00:12:27 - Webster shares insights on the diverse skill sets and professions of individuals within the Beyond the School Run community, highlighting the emergence of new business models and career paths catalyzed by parenting experiences. This segment showcases real-world examples of mothers transitioning into fulfilling careers by harnessing their experiences and skills developed through parenting. 

00:16:48 - The concept of "the genius of the and" is introduced, celebrating the ability to fulfill parenting roles while pursuing personal dreams and professional goals. This key moment underscores the episode's message of empowering parents to embrace both family life and personal aspirations without compromise. 

00:18:22 - As the episode nears its conclusion, Webster encourages parents facing the transition of their children back to school to take proactive steps towards their own personal and professional development. She emphasizes the importance of vocalizing and acting on their desires as a pathway to fulfillment and empowerment. 

00:20:17 - Louise Webster shares where listeners can find more information about Beyond the School Run, including her book, "A New Way For Mothers," her platform's growing community, and the resources available to support parents in their journey towards integrating parenting and professional growth. 

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Key Takeaways: 

- The landscape of work and parenthood is evolving, with increasing opportunities for mothers and parents to pursue professional interests and personal growth alongside their parenting responsibilities. 

- Autonomy, mastery, and purpose are key to unlocking personal motivation and fulfillment, especially for parents navigating the balance between family life and professional ambitions. 

- Open conversations and community support are vital in helping parents identify and pursue their passions and talents during the parenting years, leading to a more balanced and fulfilling life. 

Tweetable Quotes: 

 

- "Empower mothers personally and professionally through Beyond the School Run." - Louise Webster
- "Unlock the untapped value in the parent workforce, emphasizing efficiency and responsibility." - Louise Webster - "The genius of the and - fulfilling parenting roles while pursuing personal dreams." - Christopher Robbins 

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The Freedom of Play: A Guide to Unstructured Summers with Pam Lobley

In this engaging episode of Helping Families Be Happy, host Adina Oberman taps into the wisdom of writer and memoirist Pam Lobley to tackle the challenges of modern family schedules and the lost art of free play. Pam shares insights from her own experiences of letting her children enjoy a summer free of scheduled activities, diving into the benefits and hurdles of unstructured playtime. The episode serves as a reminder of the value of simplicity in our fast-paced world, emphasizing the importance of fostering creativity and imagination in children through the power of play.

Episode Highlights:

00:09: Adina Oberman warmly introduces the podcast, sharing her multifaceted role as a mom, former preschool teacher, and a member of the Famis marketing team, as well as her enthusiasm for children's literature through her project, big books for little hands. She welcomes Pam Lobley, a renowned writer recognized for her columns in major publications and her memoir focused on the joys of unstructured play for over-scheduled children.

01:40: Pam expresses her excitement about joining the podcast and delves into the backstory of her book "Why Can't We Just Play?" She illuminates the overwhelming nature of modern parenting, where the pressure to enroll children in numerous activities can overshadow the simple pleasures of childhood.

02:49: Through a heartfelt recount of a night that changed her perspective, Pam describes her realization that her children craved unstructured play. This epiphany led to a transformative summer where her family embraced the freedom of play without the confines of a packed schedule, exploring the resulting benefits and challenges.

04:11: The conversation shifts to the critical difference between structured and unstructured play, with Adina and Pam discussing the invaluable role of free time in fostering children's creativity, decision-making, and self-exploration, contrasting this with the often achievement-focused nature of scheduled activities.

05:34: Pam offers practical advice for parents struggling to incorporate free play into their daily routines. She emphasizes the importance of setting clear boundaries around screen time and creating opportunities for children to engage in self-directed play, advocating for parental involvement without directing the play itself.

07:32: Highlighting the educational aspect of play, Pam underscores how unstructured playtime can teach children crucial life skills such as empathy, self-awareness, and moral judgment through natural interactions rather than adult instruction.

09:36: Reflecting on the modern parenting dilemma of balancing technology use with active play, Adina discusses the common scenario of parents being physically present but mentally distracted by devices. Pam stresses the importance of being fully engaged and setting an example of prioritizing real-world interactions over screen time.

11:31: Pam shares strategies for managing screen time, including establishing specific rules around its use based on weather and time of day. She advocates for consistency in enforcing these rules and believes that, over time, children come to appreciate and prefer the freedom and joy that comes with less screen dependence.

14:13: Offering further advice, Pam highlights the importance of community and spousal support in facilitating unstructured play, suggesting that parents connect with like-minded families and work together with their partners to create a supportive environment for their children's free play.

19:28: As the episode concludes, Pam provides listeners with ways to connect with her online and reiterates the significant value of embracing the freedom of summer to foster happy, well-rounded children.

Key Takeaways:

- Structured activities, while beneficial, need to be balanced with ample time for unstructured play, which is critical for children's creativity, emotional growth, and physical well-being.

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- Parents play a crucial role in setting the stage for free play by minimizing screen time, establishing clear routines, and actively encouraging children to engage in self-directed activities.

- Building a support system, whether through family or community connections, is essential in promoting and sustaining the practice of free play in a technology-driven world.

Tweetable Quotes:

- "Simplicity in play opens the door to boundless creativity and learning for children." - Pam Lobley

- "Being present isn't just about sharing space; it's about sharing moments." - Adina Oberman

- "The best gifts we can give our children are time, freedom, and the space to explore." - Pam Lobley

Local Landscapes, Global Lessons: The Magic of Micro-Adventuring by Emily Liebel

In this enlightening episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, host Adina Oberman is joined by Emily Liebel, an enthusiastic advocate for combining children's literature with outdoor adventures to create enriching experiences for families. As they delve into the concept of micro-adventuring. They share practical tips on making outdoor activities both accessible and educational, leveraging local landscapes to spark creativity and learning. Their conversation underscores the importance of incorporating reading into family routines, especially in connection to exploring the natural world.

 Episode Highlights:

- **00:00:09** - Adina Oberman introduces the podcast, emphasizing its focus on family, love, relationships, and the unique blend of reading and outdoor activities to enrich family life. Adina highlights her background and passion for children's literature and introduces guest Emily Liebel, who shares her insights on using books to enhance outdoor adventures.

- **00:01:21** - Emily rejoins the podcast to delve deeper into the concept of micro adventuring, explaining its origins and how it can be tailored to fit any family's lifestyle. This part of the conversation offers families a new perspective on adventure, making it simple, accessible, and a source of joy and discovery close to home.

- **00:02:23** - The similarity between micro adventuring and the concept of "staycation" is discussed, reflecting on how the pandemic inspired families to find adventure close to home. Emily and Adina talk about the simplicity of micro adventures and how they can make everyday surroundings exciting and new for both adults and children.

- **00:03:20** - Emily shares her approach to inclusive planning for micro adventures, incorporating her children's interests to ensure every family member is engaged and involved. This segment stresses the importance of including children in the planning process, enhancing their investment in the activities and their outcomes.

- **00:04:27** - The conversation reveals how micro adventuring also serves as an educational tool, making each outing a hands-on learning experience through simple observations and explorations of local environments. Emily's practice of involving her children in planning helps tailor each adventure to their interests, fostering a deeper connection to the natural world.

- **00:05:49** - Emily recounts her family's experiences during the pandemic, utilizing nature preserves for micro adventuring as a means to engage her children with the environment in distinctive, educational ways, including observing wildlife and crafting homemade binoculars.

- **00:07:40** - Literacy and outdoor play are intertwined as Emily discusses using books like "Thankful Animals Thankful Me" and "A Tree for Me" from Famis to inspire and inform their outdoor adventures. This segment highlights how literature can deepen children's experiences and connections with nature through guided exploration and observation.

- **00:09:49** - Effective teaching methods that parallel outdoor micro adventuring experiences with classroom strategies are compared, celebrating the organic, powerful learning moments that arise when children engage deeply with both literature and nature.

- **00:10:56** - Emily offers practical advice and tips for families looking to embark on micro adventures, specifically during the summertime. She emphasizes the importance of simplicity, preparation, and making adventures accessible, regardless of a family's location or resources.

- **00:12:09** - Detailing a specific summer micro adventure, Emily describes how her family biked the Jordan River Trail, highlighting the value of exploring local areas and the joy found in simple, planned activities that focus on exploration and spending time together.

- **00:17:55** - Emily shares how inclusive library and Famis books integrate with the concept of micro adventuring, reinforcing the habits of happy families learn together, read together, and play together. This part underscores the natural synergy between reading, learning, and outdoor activities in fostering family happiness.

- **00:19:01** - The episode concludes with Emily offering final thoughts on the enriching benefits of micro adventuring, coupled with reading as powerful tools for family bonding, learning, and creating memorable experiences.

Key Takeaways:

1. Micro adventuring provides a simple, cost-effective way to explore the world around you, turning the familiar into avenues of adventure and discovery.
2. Inviting children into the planning process of outdoor activities not only fosters their creativity and investment but also enhances their learning and enjoyment.
3. Leveraging children's literature in connection with outdoor activities enriches the adventure, deepening the educational and emotional impact of those experiences.
4. Embracing the unplanned and spontaneous moments during micro adventures can lead to meaningful learning opportunities and deeper family bonds.
5. Incorporating the principles of Famis's happy family habits - learn together, read together, and play together - into everyday activities can create a well-rounded and joyful family life.

Tweetable Quotes:

- Micro adventuring turns the world around us into a playground of learning and discovery. - Emily

- Involving children in planning adventures not only deepens their engagement but also their connection to nature and learning. - Adina

 

- Books are windows into the world, and when paired with outdoor adventures, they become doors we walk through into new experiences. - Emily

Creating Safe Spaces: The Power of 'Holding Space' for LGBTQ+ Individuals with Lisa Sugarman

In this heartfelt episode of "Helping Families Be Happy," host Christopher Robbins, co-founder of Familiars Publishing, engages with Lisa Sugarman, a noted author, nationally syndicated columnist, and mental health advocate. They delve into improving relationships and understanding when a loved one comes out as LGBTQ+. Through Lisa's professional and personal insights, the episode illuminates the complexities of family, love, and acceptance within the context of LGBTQ+ experiences. 

Episode Highlights

- **00:00:09:** Christopher Robbins introduces the podcast theme, focusing on family, love, and relationships, and introduces Lisa Sugarman as the guest. He outlines her extensive background as an author, mental health advocate, and her involvement with the Trevor Project, underscoring her commitment to supporting LGBTQ+ youth. 

- **00:01:18:** Lisa's contributions to mental health awareness and LGBTQ+ advocacy are highlighted, including her writing and her role in supporting individuals facing suicide risk. Their discussion promises to explore navigating family and friend relationships within the LGBTQ+ context. 

- **00:02:11:** Lisa expresses her excitement about the conversation, setting a positive and engaging tone for the discussion. This moment further establishes the rapport and mutual respect between the host and guest, encouraging open dialogue. 

- **00:02:16:** The conversation shifts to the Trevor Project, with Lisa explaining its significance as a crisis support hotline for LGBTQ+ youth. She articulates the kinds of support provided, emphasizing the project's vital role in offering a lifeline to at-risk youth. 

- **00:03:07:** The discussion takes a deeper dive into the necessity of supporting LGBTQ+ individuals, with a particular focus on 'holding space' for those coming out. Lisa clarifies the concept of 'holding space' as a non-judgmental, supportive practice that acknowledges and validates personal experiences. 

- **00:05:09:** Lisa shares a poignant analogy to underline the importance of simply being present and listening when supporting someone who's grieving or revealing a significant part of their identity. 

- **00:05:22:** The role of genuine listening and asking open-ended questions when engaging with LGBTQ+ individuals is explored. This approach fosters a safe environment for personal revelations and strengthens support systems. 

- **00:06:31:** Lisa details how the Trevor Project approaches calls from individuals expressing suicidal thoughts, focusing on de-escalation and empowering callers to seek supportive resources. This segment underscores the critical nature of immediate and empathetic response to mental health crises. 

- **00:08:43:** Avoiding assumptions and the importance of understanding individual stories without prejudice are discussed. Emphasizing the necessity of keeping personal biases in check to support effectively. 

- **00:09:21:** Strategies for respectfully addressing and acknowledging people's preferred pronouns and identities are shared, underscoring the value of personal recognition and respect in supporting LGBTQ+ individuals. 

- **00:10:25:** Lisa reflects on her personal experiences with coming out stories within her family, emphasizing the transformative power of listening and accepting. 

- **00:12:19:** The significance of language and correct pronoun usage is highlighted as essential for validating and respecting individuals’ identities, fostering a sense of belonging and acceptance. 

- **00:13:47:** A broader discussion on privilege and advocacy for the underrepresented encapsulates the episode's theme Show Notes By Barevalue

of empathy and action. Lisa encourages leveraging privilege to uplift and support marginalized communities. 

- **00:16:08:** The conversation concludes with an emphasis on love and respect for all individuals, regardless of their background or identity, reflecting on the potential for a more inclusive and compassionate world. 

- **00:16:34:** Christopher and Lisa encapsulate the core message of the podcast: meeting oneself and others with understanding and acceptance, no matter where they are in their journey. 

Key Takeaways

- The importance of 'holding space' and listening non-judgmentally to support individuals as they share personal aspects of their identity. 

- Effective communication, including correct pronoun usage, fosters respect and validation for LGBTQ+ individuals, contributing to their sense of safety and belonging. 

- Leveraging privilege to advocate for and support underrepresented communities is crucial in building a more inclusive society. 

- The power of empathy and unconditional love in creating supportive environments for individuals navigating their identity and mental health challenges. 

Tweetable Quotes

- "Holding space for someone is not complicated; it is about listening in a non-judgmental way and letting them offload what’s on their heart." - Lisa Sugarman 

- "The best thing we can do is close our mouth, open our ears, and listen." - Lisa Sugarman 

- "We all have some kind of privilege; understanding that and leveraging it for the benefit of others is key." - Lisa Sugarman 

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Dad CEO: Balancing Work, Family, and Happiness with Christopher Robbins

In this heartwarming episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, host Adina Oberman engages in an insightful and deeply personal conversation with Christopher Robbins, a devoted father of nine and the founder and CEO of Familius. Through their dialogue, they explore the multifaceted experiences of fatherhood, from the pivotal moments that define one's journey as a parent to the broader impacts of fatherhood on personal and professional growth. Christopher shares his unique perspectives on nurturing family relationships, maintaining work-life balance, and cultivating a household centered around love, learning, and laughter. 

Episode Highlights: 

- **00:00:10:** Adina warmly introduces the podcast, setting the stage for a discussion that delves into the complexities and joys of family life. She briefly outlines her background and her passion for connecting families with impactful literature, segueing into Christopher Robbins' rich history as a father, publisher, and advocate for family happiness. 

- **00:01:19:** Christopher recounts his journey from launching an arts magazine in Utah to becoming the CEO of Gibb Smith, highlighting his successes in the publishing industry alongside his growth as a father. This segment illuminates how his personal and professional lives intertwine, shaping his mission to support families through literature. 

- **00:02:57 -“ 00:03:35:** A lighthearted exchange reveals Christopher's nervous excitement about being on the other side of the mic, setting the tone for a candid and engaging conversation. His humility and openness pave the way for deeper discussions on fatherhood. 

- **00:03:35:** Christopher shares a transformative moment upon the birth of his first child, encapsulating the profound sense of responsibility and love that defines fatherhood. This anecdote serves as a powerful introduction to the theme of fatherhood as a journey of continuous learning and adaptation. 

- **00:05:10 -“ 00:06:43:** The discussion shifts to the meaningful shifts that occur once children enter one's life, focusing on the sacrifices and changes in priorities that parenting entails. Christopher's personal anecdotes provide tangible examples of how fatherhood necessitates a reevaluation of one's passions, interests, and daily routines. 

- **00:07:25 -“ 00:08:07:** Adina and Christopher discuss the challenges today's fathers face, comparing and contrasting them with those of past generations. The conversation highlights the impact of technology, societal expectations, and the changing landscape of parenthood. 

- **00:08:07 -“ 00:12:02:** Addressing the importance of mentorship and the role of fathers in model resilience, the discussion delves into strategies for navigating fatherhood amidst modern challenges. Christopher emphasizes the value of being present, the role of discipline balanced with understanding, and the long-term impact of imparting wisdom through action and example. 

- **00:13:32 -“ 00:14:22:** Light-hearted moments intersperse the conversation, underscoring the joy and humor that accompany the trials of parenting. Adina and Christopher share personal experiences that illustrate the unpredictable and rewarding nature of raising children. 

- **00:14:22:** Christopher offers sage advice to parents, stressing the significance of prioritizing family over career, sharing meals together as a way to foster communication, and setting aside quality time to strengthen family bonds. His reflections on nurturing relationships within the family unit are invaluable for anyone navigating the complexities of parenthood. 

- **00:22:28 -“ 00:26:20:** The episode concludes with Christopher's reflections on his upbringing and the mentors who shaped his approach to fatherhood. He advocates for the positive influence men can have in their communities and within their families, emphasizing the lasting impact of mentorship and engaged parenting. 

 

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Key Takeaways: 

 

1. **Embrace the Journey:** Fatherhood is a continuous process of learning, growth, and adaptation. Embrace the responsibility, love, and challenges that it brings. 
2. **Prioritize Relationships:** The richness of family life comes from prioritizing relationships over material success. Time spent building and nurturing family bonds is invaluable. 
3. **Cultivate Open Communication:** Shared meals and dedicated family time are crucial for fostering open communication. These moments are the foundation for a supportive and understanding family environment. 
4. **Balance Discipline with Love:** Effective parenting involves a balance between discipline and understanding. By setting boundaries while showing love and support, parents can guide their children through life's challenges. 
5. **The Impact of Mentorship:** Fathers and male mentors play a critical role in guiding the next generation. By leading with kindness, responsibility, and wisdom, they can leave a lasting impact on their children and communities. 

Tweetable Quotes: 

- "Fatherhood is an adventure in patience, love, and laughter. Embrace every moment." -“ Christopher Robbins 

- "Prioritize your family, your relationships, and the joy of being together above all else." -“ Christopher Robbins 

- "In the journey of fatherhood, the best lessons are learned through love, laughter, and sometimes, a little bit of chaos." -“ Adina Oberman 

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Beyond Winning: Exploring the Heart of Family Games with Brad Berger

In this enriching episode, Christopher Robbins dives into a captivating discussion with Brad Berger, the ingenious mind behind countless family games. They traverse the realm of game creation and its profound impact on forming personal connections, enhancing family bonding, and fostering discoveries through play. This exploration uncovers the essence of games as tools for learning, engagement, and understanding within the dynamics of family and relationships. 

Episode Highlights:

- **00:00:09** - Christopher Robbins introduces the podcast, setting the stage for an exploration into the significance of games in family bonding and relationships. Robbins, a father of nine and a figure of diverse interests, shares his vision of bringing insightful content on love, family, and life. His introduction lays a foundation for an engaging dialogue that promises to unravel the layers of creating meaningful connections through games. 

- **00:01:10** - Brad Berger is introduced, offering a glimpse into his lifelong fascination with games and their developmental potential. This segment highlights Berger's journey from inventing games in childhood to using them as tools for education and social bonding. The narrative delves into how Berger's passion for games is not just about entertainment but about fostering personal discovery and connections among people, irrespective of their geographical locations. 

- **00:01:54** - A warm exchange signals the start of the conversation, with Brad sharing his extensive experience in game creation. Through laughs and anecdotes, Brad reflects on how his unique approach to everyday conversations turning them into games reveals much about his creativity and passion for engaging people. This interaction not only opens up Brad's world of game invention but also sets a lighthearted and curious tone for the discussion. 

- **00:03:01** to **00:03:37** - Brad discusses the sheer volume of games he has created, emphasizing his dedication and innovative approach to game design. He shares insights into his creative process, showcasing how constant experimentation and feedback have been crucial in refining his ideas. This portion offers listeners a behind-the-scenes look at the mind of a prolific game creator, highlighting both his creative prowess and the impact of his games on fostering connection. 

- **00:04:05** - The discussion transitions into what games reveal about people, from competitiveness to creative tendencies. Brad's classification of players into quadrants based on their competitive nature provides a framework for understanding diverse personalities. This segment enriches the conversation by bringing to light the nuanced ways games can serve as mirrors to our behaviors and inclinations. 

- **00:07:01** to **00:07:36** - Brad's observations on how people's competitive spirits evolve with age lend depth to the dialogue, revealing the transformative power of play across different life stages. This reflection on changing dynamics adds a layer of complexity to understanding how games can be adapted to suit varying age groups and competitiveness levels. 

- **00:08:31** - The narrative explores the fundamental allure of games, touching upon the inherent human love for play, competition, and the journey of the game itself. Brad's insights into why games captivate us beyond mere winning unravel the emotional and psychological dimensions of gaming, making this segment pivotal in understanding games’ universal appeal. 

- **00:10:04** - With a focus on crafting engaging games, Brad shares his methodology, revealing the diversity in game categories and the thoughtful consideration behind each creation. This detailed breakdown not only sheds light on Brad's creative process but also offers potential game designers valuable insights into crafting compelling gaming experiences. 

- **00:14:01** - The conversation takes a practical turn, with Brad suggesting games suitable for road trips, illustrating his ability to tailor game experiences to different settings. Here, listeners gain practical tips on incorporating games into family travels, enriching the journey with interactive and fun learning moments. 

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- **00:17:37** - As the discussion shifts towards dinner table games, Brad presents easily implementable game ideas that encourage family interaction and bonding during meal times. This advice underscores games' versatility and their power to transform mundane moments into opportunities for connection and discovery. 

- **00:20:26** - Brad elaborates on adapting game experiences for various environments, including business settings, emphasizing preparation and customization. His approach to creating meaningful engagement across different contexts showcases the universal applicability of games as tools for connection. 

- **00:22:03** - The episode touches upon resistance to game participation, with Brad recounting instances where individuals were initially reluctant yet ultimately drawn into the game's allure. This anecdote highlights the infectious nature of well-designed games and their ability to captivate even the most hesitant participants. 

Key Takeaways:

- Games serve as powerful tools for education, bonding, and personal discovery, transcending mere entertainment to foster deep connections among participants. 

- Understanding participants' competitiveness and preferences can enhance the gaming experience, tailoring it to suit diverse personalities and engagement levels. 

- The journey of the game, rather than the outcome, holds significant appeal, emphasizing the importance of the process and shared experiences over winning. 

- Creativity and adaptability in game design can turn ordinary moments into opportunities for engagement, learning, and meaningful interactions across a variety of settings. 

Tweetable Quotes:

- "Game creation is not just about entertainment but about fostering personal discovery and connections." - Brad Berger 

- "The journey of the game, rather than the outcome, holds significant appeal, emphasizing the process over winning." - Brad Berger

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The Essence of 'Dad Mode': Cultivating Meaningful Bonds with Tal Eyre

In this heartwarming episode of *Helping Families Be Happy*, Christopher Robbins engages in a profound conversation
with Tal Iyer, exploring the multifaceted role of fatherhood, the impact of authoritative parenting, and the art of creating deep
connections with children. Iyer, known for his significant achievements across various spheres, delves into his personal
journey of embracing 'dad mode,' sharing insights from his book, "Dad Mode: 25 Ways to Connect With Your Children."
Through stories of personal growth, the necessity of intellectual humility, and the power of stories, Robbins and Iyer unfold
a guide for fathers striving for meaningful relationships with their offspring.
**Episode Highlights:**
- **00:00:09:** The episode kicks off with Christopher Robbins warmly welcoming listeners and introducing the
podcastâ€TMs mission to explore family, love, and relationships. Robbins introduces Tal Iyer, highlighting his diverse
background from athletics to international business, and sets the stage for a discussion on the essence of 'dad mode.'
- **00:01:08:** Tal Iyer corrects the pronunciation of his spouse's name, setting a humorous and light-hearted tone for the
episode. This moment not only breaks the ice but also humanizes the conversation, inviting listeners into a more intimate
dialogue about family and fatherhood.
- **00:02:21:** Iyer shares his enchantment with the Swiss Alps, drawing a vivid picture of his idyllic family life, which serves
as a foundation for the podcast's exploration of the art and effort involved in creating meaningful connections with children.
- **00:03:03:** The concept of 'dad mode' is introduced by Iyer as an art of focused effort toward building a warm emotional
connection with children. This insight emphasizes the episode's core message: effective fatherhood transcends perfection
to embrace presence and effort.
- **00:04:19:** Iyer discusses the applicability of 'dad mode' across various stages of a child's life, highlighting its relevance
not only for young children but also for maintaining connections with adult offspring. This part of the conversation brings to
light the universality of paternal love and the ongoing nature of fatherhood.
- **00:05:53:** The discussion shifts to authoritative parenting, where Iyer shares insights into balancing supportiveness
with demands. This approach, as described by Iyer, encapsulates the essence of effective parenting, where expectations are
coupled with empathy and encouragement.
- **00:07:52:** A practical conversation ensues on managing screen time, a contemporary parental challenge. Iyer shares his
strategies, blending authoritative parenting with practical tools like a bamboo box for phones. This segment is particularly
relatable for listeners grappling with similar issues.
- **00:10:52:** Robbins shares his experience with technology and parenting, emphasizing the value of delayed gratification
in the digital age. This reflection prompts a broader conversation on setting expectations and norms within the family
structure.
- **00:12:27:** Iyer champions the power of observation in parenting, inspiring fathers to engage in the reflective practice of
noticing and appreciating the unique characteristics and interests of their children.
- **00:16:19:** Intellectual humility in parenting is explored. Iyer makes a compelling case for acknowledging fallibility and
demonstrating growth, reshaping the narrative around parental authority and mutual respect.
- **00:19:02:** The episode delves into creating family vision and mission statements, a process that strengthens familial
bonds and clarifies collective values and aspirations.
**Key Takeaways:**

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- 'Dad mode' is more about presence, effort, and consistent engagement with children than aiming for paternal perfection. -
The balance of supportiveness and demands encapsulates effective authoritative parenting, fostering resilience and growth
in children.
- Intellectual humility and the ability to admit when one is wrong are pivotal in nurturing a healthy and respectful family
dynamic.
- Crafting family vision and mission statements can profoundly unify and guide the family toward shared goals and values.
**Tweetable Quotes:**
- "Being in 'dad mode' means embracing the artful journey of connecting with your children through a consistent, loving
effort." - Tal Iyer
- "In parenting, as in life, intellectual humility opens the doors to growth and deeper connections." - Tal Iyer - "Family vision
and mission statements not only define our aspirations but also chart the course for achieving them together." - Christopher
Robbins

In the Trenches of Love: Supporting Military Families with Abigail Calkin

Episode Summary 

In this heartfelt episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, host Christopher Robbins converses with author Abigail Calkin, exploring the nuanced world of military families, love, relationships, and the challenges of PTSD. Abigail shares her journey as a military spouse and discusses her book, *The Soul of My Soldier*. The discussion also delves into the importance of understanding and supporting veterans with PTSD, and the therapeutic power of writing and poetry in healing and coping with the aftermath of military service. 

Episode Highlights 

- **00:00:10 - Introduction**: Christopher Robbins introduces the podcast, focusing on the complex dynamics of family, love, and relationships. He outlines the episode's objective of understanding and supporting military families through the lens of Abigail Calkin's experiences and literary work. 

- **00:01:14 - Abigail Calkin's Background**: Robbins details Abigail Calkin's achievements and publications, highlighting her literary contributions that span poetry, fiction, non-fiction, and analyses of behavioral psychology. Calkin's diverse work reflects a deep exploration of human emotion, relationships, and the psychological impacts of military life. 

- **00:02:32 - Welcome to Abigail Calkin**: Robbins warmly welcomes Abigail Calkin to the podcast. This introduction sets the stage for an intimate and profound discussion about military life, love, and the power of writing. 

- **00:02:45 - Building a Life in Alaska**: Calkin shares her intriguing journey to Alaska, where she and her family built a life, highlighting her hands-on approach and the significance of community and environment in her writing and personal growth. 

- **00:03:20 - Inspiration behind *The Soul of My Soldier***: Calkin discusses the emotional triggers and inspirations for writing her book, rooted in her experiences and observations as a military spouse, particularly during her husband's deployment to Desert Storm. 

- **00:06:30 - A Reading from *The Soul of My Soldier***: Abigail reads a poignant excerpt from her book, conveying the profound emotional and psychological scars left by war, not only on the soldiers but also on their families. 

- **00:09:17 - Understanding Veterans and PTSD**: Calkin provides insight into living with and supporting veterans with PTSD. She emphasizes patience, understanding, and the importance of communication, sharing personal anecdotes to illuminate the challenges and strategies for coping. 

- **00:11:28 - Audience Engagement and Reception**: Robbins and Calkin discuss the diverse reactions to *The Soul of My Soldier* from military and civilian readers alike, highlighting the book's impact and the varied perspectives on military service and its aftermath. 

- **00:16:22 - Honoring and Supporting Veterans**: Calkin articulates thoughtful and meaningful ways to honor, support, and understand veterans. She reflects on both personal gestures and broader societal acknowledgments that contribute to recognizing and appreciating veterans' sacrifices. 

- **00:20:25 - Closing Remarks and Contact Information**: The episode concludes with Robbins thanking Calkin for her insights and contributions. Calkin shares her contact information, inviting listeners to explore her work further. 

Key Takeaways 

- The emotional and psychological challenges faced by military families, particularly those dealing with PTSD, require patience, understanding, and open communication. 

- Writing and poetry can serve as powerful therapeutic tools for expressing and coping with the complexities of military life and its impacts on soldiers and their families. 

- Honoring and supporting veterans involves both personal gestures of kindness and societal efforts to recognize and appreciate their sacrifices and service. 

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Tweetable Quotes 

- *"Understanding and supporting our veterans with PTSD requires patience, compassion, and the willingness to listen." - Abigail Calkin* 

- *"Writing can be a powerful therapy for the soul, helping military families navigate the enduring impacts of service and sacrifice." - Abigail Calkin* 

Turning Pages, Building Futures: The Power of Children's Literature with Dr. Cynthia Weill

In this heartfelt episode of Helping Families Be Happy, host Adina Oberman, a devoted mother and children's book enthusiast, invites Dr. Cynthia Weill, a renowned art historian and Director of the Center for Children"s Literature at Bank Street College, to dive deep into the significance of children"s literature in early education. Together, they explore the transformative power of books in nurturing young minds, the invaluable resources offered by Bank Street College, and Dr. Weill's personal journey in the realm of children's literature. 

Episode Highlights

**00:00:10 - Introduction**  

Adina Oberman introduces the podcast and its alignment with Famis habits, welcoming Dr. Cynthia Wilde to discuss her extensive work in children's literature. Adina shares her background and excitement about discussing early childhood and literature, setting the stage for a conversation centered around educational practices, children's books, and their impact on families and educators. 

**00:01:39 - Dr. Cynthia Weill Joins the Conversation**  

Dr. Weill expresses her gratitude for being part of the podcast and sets a warm and engaging tone for the discussion that follows. 

**00:01:43 - Bank Street's Contribution to Early Childhood and Literature**  

Dr. Weill provides an in-depth overview of Bank Street College's history, its educational philosophy influenced by Lucy Sprague Mitchell and John Dewey, and the institution's comprehensive approach to child-centered, experiential learning. The conversation sheds light on Bank Street's transformative role in the world of early childhood education and its innovative contributions, including the development of the Bank Street Writer's Lab. 

**00:02:17 - The Evolution of Children"s Literature**  

Expanding on the history of children's literature, Dr. Weill discusses the pioneering work of Lucy Sprague Mitchell in promoting books that reflect the "here and now" of a child"s world. This segment offers listeners insight into how children's literature has evolved over the years, emphasizing Bank Street's historical impact on this transformation. 

**00:05:16 - Bank Street"s Best Book Lists and Awards**  

Dr. Weill delves into the criteria and process behind the Bank Street Children's Book Committee's selection of the best children's books, highlighting the importance of these resources for educators and families. She underscores the value of curated lists in guiding book selection, thereby enriching the educational experience for children. 

**00:06:43 - Advocacy and Diversity in Children"s Literature**  

The conversation turns to Dr. Weill's advocacy for quality children's literature, including efforts to curate a comprehensive list of exceptional Spanish-language and bilingual books. This segment emphasizes the need for diversity and representation in children"s books and Bank Street"s role in promoting these values within the publishing industry. 

**00:07:55 - Using Bank Street Resources**  

Adina asks for advice on leveraging Bank Street's assets to discover quality children"s books. Dr. Weill introduces the newly created database, highlighting its utility in helping families and educators find books on specific topics, illustrating how Bank Street's resources can simplify the search for impactful children's literature. 

**00:10:29 - Importance of Advocacy in Children's Publishing**  

Dr. Weill discusses the influence of Bank Street's advocacy on publishers' decisions to produce and recognize high-quality children"s literature. This part of the conversation provides an inside look at how recognition and awards can motivate publishers to prioritize significant works for children. 

**00:19:05 - Dr. Cynthia Weill's Personal Journey**  

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Dr. Wilde shares her journey from a Spanish teacher to an artist collaborating with Oaxacan artisans to create bilingual children's books. This segment offers a unique perspective on integrating cultural art and education within the realm of children's literature, highlighting Dr. Weill's passion for her work. 

**00:21:40 - Conclusion and Contact Information**  

The episode wraps up with thanks to Dr. Weill for her contributions and information on how listeners can access Bank Street's resources. Adina encourages listeners to explore the rich world of children's literature through the lenses provided by Dr. Weill and Bank Street College. 

Key Takeaways

- Children"s literature plays a crucial role in early development, reflecting the everyday world of the child and fostering a deeper connection to learning. 

- Bank Street College serves as a vital resource for educators and families, offering curated book lists, awards, and a comprehensive database to aid in the selection of quality children's books. 

- Advocacy and recognition by esteemed institutions like Bank Street can significantly influence publishers' efforts to produce diverse, high-quality children"s literature. 

- Integrating cultural artifacts and stories into children"s books enriches the educational experience, providing children with a broader understanding of the world. 

Tweetable Quotes
 

- "Books should mine the world of the child." - Dr. Cynthia Weill

- "A best book is what you like to read and share." - Dr. Cynthia Weill

- "We're trying to get the best work out there all the time." - Dr. Cynthia Weill

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Beyond Acceptance: Empowering Parents of LGBTQ+ Teens with Heather Hester

In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, host Christopher Robbins, an author, husband, and father of nine, engages in a heartfelt conversation with Heather Hester, founder of Chrysalis Mama and advocate for LGBTQIA+ adolescents. They delve into the complexities and beauties of parenting LGBTQ+ teens, drawing from personal experiences and Heather's recent book, "Parenting with Pride." This discussion offers valuable insights into embracing and supporting LGBTQIA+ children with understanding, love, and empowerment. 

Episode Highlights:

- **00:00:09**: Christopher Robbins introduces the podcast and its mission to explore family, love, and relationships. He shares his background as a co-founder of Famis Publishing and a father of nine, emphasizing the podcast's commitment to providing real-life insights into nurturing family dynamics and supportive environments for all family members, including LGBTQIA+ teens. 

- **00:01:17**: Heather Hester is introduced as today’s guest. She talks about her role as the founder of Chrysalis Mama and her efforts to support parents and allies of LGBTQIA+ adolescents through education and empowerment. Heather shares her anticipation for the release of her first book, "Parenting with Pride," which aims to guide parents in embracing, empowering, and loving their LGBTQ+ teens. 

- **00:02:23**: Heather expresses her gratitude for being a part of the podcast and delves into the origins of her podcast, "Just Breathe: Parenting Your LGBTQ Teen." She discusses the importance of sharing personal experiences and hosting guests with diverse expertise to support and educate parents navigating their journey with LGBTQ+ adolescents. 

- **00:04:29**: The conversation shifts to the core message of Heather's book. They discuss the challenges parents might face when their child comes out as LGBTQ+ and the significance of approaching these challenges with love, understanding, and a willingness to learn and unlearn biases. 

- **00:05:20**: Heather emphasizes simplicity in dealing with complex emotions and scenarios that arise when a child comes out. She encourages parents to see their child for who they are, reassure them of their unconditional love, and engage in self-reflection and learning to support their child effectively. 

- **00:06:16**: The discussion underlines the universal needs of children to be seen, heard, and loved. Christopher and Heather talk about the power of genuine curiosity and open communication in strengthening the parent-child relationship, especially when navigating the child's journey of self-discovery and expression. 

- **00:08:04**: Love as a verb is highlighted, with a focus on demonstrating love through actions and behaviors. This part of the discussion serves as a reminder that showing love and support plays a crucial role in modeling healthy relationships and emotional well-being for children. 

- **00:09:03**: Heather and Christopher explore the positive impacts of embracing and supporting LGBTQ+ children on family dynamics. They share personal stories that illustrate the strength and closeness that can result from navigating these experiences with compassion and understanding. 

- **00:09:55**: Educational resources and strategies for unlearning bias are discussed. Heather provides recommendations for organizations and resources that offer valuable information and support for families and communities striving to better understand and embrace LGBTQIA+ individuals. 

- **00:12:29**: Heather shares her hopes for readers of her book. She wishes for them to recognize the inherent capability within themselves to love their children unconditionally, become strong allies, and find freedom from fear through education and open-heartedness. 

- **00:14:14**: Closing thoughts emphasize the enduring and evolving journey of acceptance and love within families. 

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Heather shares updates on her family and the positive outcomes of embracing the principles discussed in her book and throughout her advocacy work. 

- **00:14:57**: Contact information for Heather Hester is provided, offering listeners further opportunities to connect with her work and access additional resources through her website, Chrysalis Mama. 

Key Takeaways:

1. Embracing and supporting LGBTQ+ children begins with unconditional love, open communication, and a willingness to learn and unlearn biases. 
2. Genuine curiosity about a child's experiences and perspectives can strengthen the parent-child relationship and foster a supportive environment for self-discovery. 
3. Education and resources are available for families seeking to better understand and navigate the complexities of parenting LGBTQ+ children, emphasizing the importance of community and expert guidance. 
4. The journey of embracing LGBTQ+ children is ongoing, filled with opportunities for growth, understanding, and deeper familial connections. 

Tweetable Quotes:

- "Your child just needs to be seen. They need to know that you love them for who they are right now." - Heather Hester 

- "Love is a verb; it requires action. In our behavior and actions, we actually show love." - Christopher Robbins 

- "It's all been in them all along... they can be the ally that their child needs." - Heather Hester 

Resources Mentioned:

Helping Families be Happy Podcast

Chrysalis Mama

Heather Hester

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