Helping Families Be Happy

Empowering Children Through Attunement: A Conversation with Kira Bender

On today's episode, host Dr. Carla Marie Manley, a clinical psychologist and author from Sonoma County, California, talks to Kira Bender, a pediatric occupational therapist. The podcast explores various aspects of family, love, and relationships. Dr. Manley and Kira will discuss Kira's work and the role of an occupational therapist in the upcoming conversation.

 

Episode Highlights

• 01:06: Kira, the pediatric occupational therapist, and guest, provides insights into her background and role. She mentions that she is both a pediatric occupational therapist and a mother of a four-year-old child, emphasizing how these two aspects of her life are closely intertwined.
• 01:58: Kira explains the nature of pediatric occupational therapy and her specific approach to it.
• 02:24: Kira describes her current role as an outpatient occupational therapist based in Los Angeles, working for the Center for Connection, led by Dr. Tina Payne Bryson.
• 03:12: For children, their most important occupation is being a student and a family member, in addition to taking care of themselves. This underlines the holistic nature of pediatric occupational therapy, where the focus is on helping children thrive in all aspects of their lives.
• 04:47: Dr. Carla Manley explores the concept of attunement in the context of working with children, particularly in relation to Kira Bender's approach to pediatric occupational therapy.
• 05:30: Kira delves into the concept of attunement and its role in helping children, especially those with self-regulation challenges.
• 06:26: Kira emphasizes that a child won't learn to self-soothe if they are left to navigate distressing moments entirely on their own. Instead, repeated exposure to co-regulation is essential for a child to develop the skill of self-soothing.
• 08:04: Dr. Carla discusses scenarios where co-regulation is needed, such as when a child is having a temper tantrum. She points out that screaming at the child or leaving them is the opposite of co-regulation because it doesn't involve attuning to the child's needs.
• 10:30: Dr. Carla reinforces the idea that perfection is not the goal in parenting or caregiving, and it's natural for adults to have their own emotions and challenges when dealing with upset children.
• 11:30: Kira discusses the second step for parents or caregivers in co-regulating with a child who is experiencing intense emotions, especially when dealing with neurodivergent children.
• 13:24: Kira emphasizes that the tone, touch, body heat, and rhythm of the caregiver's actions are crucial in co-regulation. She points out that with infants, caregivers instinctively use their voice and soothing actions even when the child cannot understand words. It's about creating a calming and reassuring atmosphere.
• 15:10: Dr. Manley acknowledges that attunement is an art that requires effort, unlike using more conventional parenting methods like timeouts or one-size-fits-all approaches for multiple children.
• 17:18: Dr. Manley highlights the significant payoff of parenting in this way, emphasizing that investing in teaching children to self-soothe, regulate their emotions, and understand themselves at an early age can result in emotionally mature and competent individuals.
• 19:28: Kira explains that she is passionate about using books as tools for building social-emotional skills in young children. She shares her experience of presenting to the Los Angeles Public Library's team of children's librarians on this topic.
• 21:33: Kira emphasizes the importance of helping children understand their body cues, such as a fast-beating heart, a hot face, or shallow breathing, as clues to their emotional state. She believes that children need to learn these cues to identify when they might need to use strategies like asking for help from an adult or taking a break.
• 23:09: Kira uses books as co-regulation tools during emotional moments with her son and in her preschool group.
• 26:02: Storybook detectives is a strategy used when a child is regulated and ready to engage with a story.
• 28:12: Kira highlights that children often relate to characters in stories and can learn valuable lessons by diving deeper into the character's experiences.

3 Key Points

1. Kira explains that attunement involves not only understanding what's happening for the child but also helping guide them through specific moments. Many of the children she works with struggle with self-regulation, which is a natural part of child development.
2. Dr. Carla Manley discusses the common misconception that mirroring a child's emotions by stating what they are feeling might not always work, especially if the child denies their feelings. She agrees with Kira's emphasis on the importance of non-verbal cues and empathy.
3. Kira and Carla discuss the importance of using books to teach social-emotional skills to children of all ages and the positive impact it can have on their emotional well-being.

Tweetable Quotes

• “The goal of occupational therapy is to enable children to perform the activities they want and need to do in life, which extends beyond traditional job-related occupations. It encompasses essential life activities such as self-care, dressing, feeding, and play.” – Kira
• “Understanding the physiological process behind co-regulation can help parents be more empathetic to themselves and their children.” – Kira
• “By imparting emotional regulation and coping skills to children, they can navigate the world with more flexibility and resilience as they grow older.” – Kira
• “Books can help children connect with their bodies on a deeper level and foster a love for learning about themselves and the world around them.” – Kira

Resources Mentioned

• Helping Families be Happy Podcast Apple
• Podcast Editing

 

Generation Anxiety: Navigating the Stress of Millennials and Gen Z with Dr. Lauren Cook

On today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Christopher Robbins, co-founder of Familius Publishing, husband, father of nine, author, fisherman, backpacker, and aspirational musician based in the Central Valley of California, talks to Dr. Lauren Cook, a therapist who specializes in helping millennials and Gen Z clients deal with anxiety. Christopher shares that Dr. Cook not only professionally understands these generations' struggles with anxiety but also personally relates to them as a millennial who experiences anxiety herself.

 

The episode discusses Dr. Cook's book, "Generation Anxiety," which provides actionable steps to help young adults navigate anxiety. The book draws on psychological research and diverse client experiences to illustrate various manifestations of anxiety. It aims to help readers gain insight into their own stressors and effectively manage anxiety.

 

Episode Highlights

• 02:00: The episode features Dr. Cook, who specializes in addressing anxiety among millennials and Gen Z, and it acknowledges the widespread issue of anxiety, with over 40 million Americans currently experiencing some form of anxiety.
• 02:51: Dr. Cook explains that there is indeed a rise in both the number of people experiencing anxiety and the intensity of their symptoms. She attributes this to several factors, including the constant inundation of social media, which is a relatively new phenomenon, and the increasing sense of isolation, often referred to as the "loneliness epidemic."
• 03:37: Dr. Cook also highlights an interesting aspect of anxiety, where the more one seeks to control it, the more out of control it can become. She mentions that avoidance is another common aspect of anxiety, where individuals may start avoiding certain aspects of their life or situations due to their anxiety.
• 04:14: Christopher shares a valuable perspective from their teachings, emphasizing that we don't have control over everything but rather have influence. This perspective encourages finding ways to influence the situation positively.
• 06:20: When people isolate themselves and only interact with a small circle of family and friends, they can become more distrustful and disconnected from others.
• 07:18: Dr. Cook also mentions the common stereotype about Gen Z struggling with voicemails, which she believes is a reflection of a larger issue related to social skills and interaction. She advocates for building social skills to enhance communication and connection among all generations.
• 08:14: Dr. Cook explains the concept of choosing values induction over pain reduction in the context of anxiety. She notes that anxiety often stems from the desire to avoid discomfort and pain, and this avoidance can lead to people missing out on important aspects of life.
• 10:35; Dr. Cook expresses her enthusiasm for discussing the power of gratitude, citing years of research in positive psychology that highlights the positive impact of gratitude on both brain health and overall physical health.
• 10:42: The concept of "5 daily gratitude" likely refers to a practice of identifying and expressing gratitude for five things each day. This practice is often recommended as a way to shift focus away from negative thinking and promote a more positive and optimistic outlook on life.
• 12:29: Christopher shares his personal experience with practicing gratitude during yoga and meditation. He mentions how he expresses gratitude for simple things like trees, breath, and the sounds of birds during his practice.
• 13:37: Dr. Cook explains that these two generations have grown up in an era where there is a significant focus on appearance. She points out that millennials experienced a period when plastic surgery and brands like Abercrombie and Fitch were popular, which had a substantial impact on young adults' self-image.
• 14:09: "What if your appearance was the least interesting thing about you?" Dr. Cook suggests that this question can be a powerful way to prompt self-reflection and encourage individuals to reconsider where they invest their time, energy, and focus.
• 16:26: Dr. Cook introduces the concept of "empowered acceptance." This practice involves accepting yourself and your current situation while taking active steps to improve your well-being.
• 17:25: Dr. Cook also highlights that it's okay to experience anxiety and that the goal isn't necessarily to make anxiety disappear but to learn how to live with it while still leading fulfilling lives.

3 Key Points

1. Dr. Cook talks about the importance of teaching children to interact with people outside of their immediate family and encourages parents to expose their children to a broader community.
2. Dr. Cook encourages practicing mindfulness and taking moments to reflect on what has gone well in the past 24 hours, even in small ways. She suggests that this practice can have a significant impact on shifting the energy within a family unit.
3. Alongside acceptance, Dr. Cook encourages individuals to take empowered action to address the problems and challenges they face. Being proactive and engaged in finding solutions, both on a personal and societal level, can help alleviate anxiety.

Tweetable Quotes

• “Anxiety, is like a wave that spikes when we reach its peak, and my goal is to help people ride through the wave and realize that they can endure and survive through moments of discomfort.” - Dr. Cook
• “By understanding one's values, individuals can become more willing to endure the discomfort that may come with pursuing a meaningful life.” - Dr. Cook
• “Many young adults she works with often rate their stress about body image at a 7 or 8 on a scale of 1 to 10, indicating that body image occupies a significant amount of their mental energy and attention.” - Dr. Cook

Resources Mentioned

• Helping Families be Happy Podcast Apple
• doctorlaurencook.com
• Podcast Editing

 

Raising Multicultural Kids: Tips for Celebrating Diversity at Home with Erika Sargent

On today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Christopher Robbins, co-founder of Familius Publishing, husband, father of nine, author, fisherman, backpacker, and aspirational musician based in the Central Valley of California, talks to Erika Sargent. She is the founder of Multicultural Parenting, an organization that helps parents raise their children with a better understanding and appreciation of their cultural heritage. She graduated from Brigham Young University to BA in communications. Today they are discussing specific ways that parents can incorporate more culture into their homes and family’s upbringing.

 

Episode Highlights

• 01:51: Multicultural parenting is an online community that works to help families raise their children with a better understanding and appreciation of their cultural heritage. It includes a blend of interviews, resources, actionable item steps and personal experiences from multicultural parents.
• 04:41: When Erika was looking for resources to help with multicultural parenting, she found a lack of general multicultural parenting resources. While there were options for specific cultural backgrounds, she wanted to create a broader platform that would provide support and resources for families with diverse cultural backgrounds, hence the creation of multicultural parenting.
• 05:04: Erika highlights that there are abundant resources for raising bilingual children but limited guidance for families seeking to incorporate multiple cultural backgrounds into their parenting approach.
• 06:24: Erika emphasizes the importance of providing parents with simple and actionable steps to connect their children with their cultural backgrounds.
• 07:01: Christopher acknowledges the significance of multicultural parenting and Erika's work and ask about practical steps that parents can take to celebrate their culture with their children.
• 08:23: Incorporating everyday living like music, TV programs or games and cooking like preparing recipes with cultural backgrounds or family cookbooks in everyday activities into family life can help parents celebrate their culture with their children in a natural and meaningful way says Erika.
• 10:25: Erika recommends using public libraries as a valuable resource. They offer a wide range of books, including picture books and nonfiction books, that can help parents teach their children about their cultural history.
• 11:34: Christopher mentions that many children in their area speak Spanish, and Erika confirms that dual immersion programs, where children are taught in bilingual classrooms, are growing in popularity across the United States.
• 13:13: Erika highlights the joy of being a multicultural parent, as it provides an opportunity not only to pass on cultural traditions but also to continually learn new things and deepen one's own cultural understanding.
• 13:54: Erika introduces the concept of "participate" as the last pillar in their discussion. This pillar encourages people to step out of their comfort zones and become actively involved in their community's cultural aspects.
• 15:05: Christopher summarizes the three pillars of their discussion: "Educate, celebrate, participate." These pillars provide a comprehensive framework for parents and families to enrich their understanding and appreciation of their multicultural backgrounds and the broader cultural diversity within their communities.
• 15:41: Erika emphasizes that parents can expand their horizons without necessarily having to travel to different countries. Many events, such as festivals and museum exhibits, provide opportunities to experience diverse cultures without the need for expensive travel.
• 17:17: Erika highlights the importance of utilizing family members as valuable resources.

3 Key Points

1. Erika's talks about the importance of utilizing resources like libraries and culturally diverse books to make learning about one's cultural heritage an enjoyable and engaging experience for children.
2. Erika and Christopher underscores the significance of both formal education programs and cultural traditions in helping children appreciate and understand their multicultural heritage.
3. Erika and Christopher provides valuable insights and practical tips for parents to engage with their children's multicultural backgrounds and foster a deeper appreciation for diversity through celebration, education, and active participation in their communities.

Tweetable Quotes

• “Multicultural parenting is built on three pillars, celebrate, educate, participate. These three pillars form the foundation of multicultural parenting, making it a valuable resource for families looking to embrace and pass on their cultural heritage to the next generation.” – Erika 
• “Familius Publishing offers multicultural picture books, such as "My Name Is Cool" and "The Proudest Color." They have recently released a book that explores a diverse family dynamic called "My House and My Family." These books provide an engaging way for children to learn about different cultures and family dynamics.” – Erika
• “Multicultural parenting is not about rigidly following a checklist but rather providing options and ideas that parents can adapt to their family's needs. It's about incorporating what works best for your family, considering your time constraints and personal circumstances.” - Erika

Resources Mentioned

• Helping Families be Happy Podcast Apple
• multiculturalparenting.com
• Podcast Editing

Growing Up Happy: Navigating Children’s Emotional Health with Hillary Waller

On today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Christopher Robbins, co-founder of Familius Publishing, husband, father of nine, author, fisherman, backpacker, and aspirational musician based in the Central Valley of California, is going to talk to Hillary Waller, Director of Education and Programming and a psychotherapist at the Postpartum Stress Center. She offers individual and group therapy services, manages training and education programs, and leads educational in-services at the center.

 

Episode Highlights

• 01:21: Hillary Waller's interest in parent-child relationships led her to pursue a Master's degree in counseling psychology with a specialization in marriage and family therapy. She now conducts specialized training sessions for organizations seeking expertise in the treatment of perinatal mood and anxiety disorders.
• 02:07: Christopher and Hillary’s discussion topic revolves around the increasing prevalence of anxiety and depression among today's children, which is described as almost reaching epidemic proportions.
• 03:55: Hillary encourages parents to reach out to therapists and professionals who can offer insights into what is normal behavior and what may be a cause for concern. She suggests that when a parent's instinct tells them something isn't right, that should be considered a red flag, prompting them to seek help and guidance from qualified professionals.
• 05:00: Being closely connected with their child allows parents to recognize when something deviates from the norm and may require further attention or investigation.
• 05:27: Christopher emphasizes the importance of being present with our children and getting to know them well enough to recognize when something is an outlier or deviates from their usual behavior.
• 06:30: Hillary acknowledges the developmental stage of teenagers, who simultaneously desire their parents' involvement and support while also seeking independence and privacy. She emphasizes the need to strike a balance between respecting their independence and understanding when to intervene when necessary.
• 08:11: Christopher shares a personal experience of seeking therapy with their young son and realizing that therapy was not just for the child but also for the parents. They then ask if using phrases like "well-being" might be more appropriate than saying "mental health."
• 10:25: Hillary highlights the significance of parents learning self-regulation strategies so they can effectively communicate with their children about their feelings. By providing children with language to express their emotions, parents help them develop emotional intelligence.
• 13:19: Hillary suggests that if a parent already has their own therapist, they can initiate a conversation about their child's mental health with them.
• 14:30: In response to the host's question about common denominators or triggers for children's mental health issues, Hillary Waller acknowledges that it's a complex question because there are numerous factors that contribute to children experiencing anxiety and depression.
• 16:32: Hillary Waller emphasizes the importance of physical presence and eye contact when sitting with children and teenagers to discuss their feelings and challenges. She mentions that when people are overwhelmed and stressed, their bodies often feel tense, which is closely related to anxiety.
• 17:20: Being present and making eye contact with your child, regardless of their age, can have a positive and calming effect.
• 18:21: The love parents have for their child is the most important and powerful tool they have in helping their child through difficult times.

 

 

 

3 Key Points

1. Christopher and Hillary discuss the issue of the stigma associated with mental illness, anxiety, and depression. They acknowledge that there might be generational factors or societal influences contributing to this stigma.
2. Hillary suggests that using the terminology of "emotional health" can be less stigmatized than "mental health." She encourages open conversations about feelings and emotional well-being from a very young age, regardless of the child's age, to create a more accepting and supportive environment for discussing these issues.
3. Hillary Waller suggests that using books can be a great way to initiate conversations about mental well-being with children.

 

 

Tweetable Quotes

• “Parents particularly new mothers, should trust their instincts and learn how to find answers about their children's well-being.” - Hillary Waller
• “While there is a wealth of content available, it's important to limit the number of resources to avoid feeling overwhelmed.” - Hillary Waller
• “Life can be challenging, and it's essential to help children and teens learn how to navigate and work through these challenges.” - Hillary Waller

 

 

Resources Mentioned

• Helping Families be Happy Podcast Apple
• postpartumstress.com
• Podcast Editing

From Summer Freedom to School Screens with Jessica Speer

On today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Adina Oberman, talks to Jessica Speer. She is an award-winning author known for her books "Not Really Friends," "Middle School Safety Goggles Advised," and the newly released "The Phone Book," which are interactive books aimed at preteens and teens. These books entertain while addressing important topics, blending humor, science, stories, and insights to help young readers navigate challenges during adolescence.

Episode Highlights:

• 02:14: Jessica shares the challenges of children using devices more frequently or differently than they did during the summer.
• 02:45: Jessica gives her advice by suggesting practical steps for families to prepare for the school year transition.
• 04:28: Jessica emphasizes the importance of encouraging healthy communication between children and their teachers when it comes to using technology. 
• 05:20: Digital literacy is a crucial new form of literacy, given that so much information is now presented on screens. With the rise of digital communication, it's challenging for kids to discern what is true and what is not, and even the emotional nuances in messages can be lost.
• 05:46: To help children become more media literate, Jessica suggests a gradual process that starts with teaching them how to assess the credibility of information.
• 06:21: In today's parenting landscape, a significant aspect involves guiding kids to be safe online, promoting good digital citizenship, and fostering literacy.
• 06:39: With the power that devices provide, children can communicate through texts and messages either positively and kindly or in a harmful way.
• 06:57: By teaching kids about their digital influence and encouraging them to make positive choices online, parents can help mold their children into responsible and empathetic digital citizens.
• 07:39: Digital social interactions can be even trickier than in-person interactions due to the absence of nonverbal cues and the involvement of more people in online conversations.
• 08:46: Family tech agreements are widely available online, but they can vary in content. Parents need to review a few options and choose one that best suits their family's dynamics and values. However, the tech agreement is just the starting point.
• 10:33: Jessica provides valuable guidance on how to handle situations where things may not be going well about technology use and its impact on various aspects of a child's life.
• 15:03: Jessica highlights the importance of helping kids create healthy habits around screen time.

3 Key Highlights

1. Jessica discusses how her book "The Phone Book" helps both adult and younger readers understand media literacy in the context of phones, screens, and the internet.
2. Jessica explains how it is crucial to identify specific areas or times in the house where screens are not allowed.
3. Jessica highlights her approach to "The Phone Book," emphasizing its aim to facilitate important conversations with kids about their phone usage. While the book is written for preteens and early teens, she encourages parents to read it as well to engage in discussions about topics such as stranger danger, digital literacy, digital footprints, and reputation.

Tweetable Quotes

• "In elementary school where children might be encountering devices for the first time or using them more extensively for assignments and testing." - Jessica Speer
• "If a child is having trouble with a device or encountering challenges, they should feel empowered to communicate their issues to their teacher so that they can receive the necessary support." - Jessica Speer
• "By creating a calm and understanding atmosphere, parents can address challenges related to technology use without creating unnecessary tension or conflict. The focus should be on finding solutions together and supporting the child's overall well-being and success." - Jessica Speer

Resources Mentioned

• Helping Families Be Happy Podcast Apple
• https://jessicaspeer.com/
• Podcast Editing

Fostering Family Unity Through Literature with Cynthia Hope

In today's episode, host Dr. Carla Marie Manley, a clinical psychologist and author from Sonoma County, California, talks to Cynthia Hope. She is the author of the book "My House, My Family." She discusses her background, including her family and faith, and mentions that she grew up with parents who had an open home. This episode highlights the interactive and enjoyable aspects of reading with children and Hope's dedication to fostering language development and a love for reading from a young age.

 

Episode Highlights

• 01:04: Hope talks about her background and mentions that her family and faith strongly influence her identity. She dedicates her book to her parents, Reverend Glen, and Betty Keenan, who played a significant role in her life. She highlights how her parents opened their home and hearts to many children, fostering and adopting them. Additionally, her parents built a camp for inner-city children and teenagers, creating a sense of family and community for them.
• 02:13: Hope discusses her parents' work in both an inner-city church and a camp they built, which posed different challenges. She emphasizes the importance of adapting to the circumstance’s life presents and making the best of them.
• 03:18: Hope talks about the various children who became a part of her family through fostering and adoption.
• 05:03: Hope explains the essence of what's inside her book, "My House, My Family." She emphasizes the importance of every child and parent feeling loved and accepted within their family structure, regardless of race, origin, or community.
• 07:39: Carla underscores the importance of showcasing diverse family structures and experiences through literature, allowing readers to connect with and appreciate the richness of different family narratives.
• 09:35: Hope mentions that parents, therapists, and psychologists have shared their experiences of people picking up the book, even in waiting rooms. This indicates that the book's message is resonating and connecting with a wide range of individuals.
• 10:26: Hope expresses her surprise and delight that parents are finding a personal connection to her book. She believes that the book offers comfort and a sense of togetherness for parents as well.
• 11:53: Hope and Carla discuss the joyful and meaningful experiences that books like Hope's can create for families.
• 13:57: Hope emphasizes the diversity of family dynamics and practices depicted in the book, as well as the overarching message of love, acceptance, and togetherness that unites all families.
• 15:31: Hope's book is suitable for children aged 2 to 10 and is a picture book. It's designed to be a quick read, taking less than 5 minutes before bedtime, but also offers opportunities for engagement with children through the bird spotting activity and the discussion questions.
• 16:27: Carla praises the way Hope's book employs the "show, don't tell" approach to demonstrate loving behaviors and actions rather than just instructing them.
• 17:58: Drawing from her own experiences, Hope shares a story about her adopted daughter from Burma. She recalls an incident where her daughter squatted down in the middle of a mall to rest, explaining that it was a behavior she learned from her own culture.
• 18:19: Hope highlights the need for cultural sensitivity, active listening, and embracing children's individuality as important elements of creating an inclusive and loving family environment.
• 19:10: When it comes to children, whether they are biological or come into the family through other means, the key is to listen to them, understand what makes them tick, and avoid pushing one's own agenda onto them.
• 21:05: Carla highlights the importance of family, love, understanding, and inclusivity, as well as the impact that literature and storytelling can have on fostering positive values and relationships within families.

3 Key Points

1. Hope talks about her book's inclusivity and its potential impact on various aspects of society, from families and caregivers to educators and medical professionals, all working together to promote a wholesome sense of family unity.
2. Dr. Carla Marie Manley highlights the importance of the values emphasized in Hope's book and how they contribute to fostering love, acceptance, and kindness within families.
3. Hope's story underscores the value of actively listening, observing, and understanding each child's unique perspective and experiences as a fundamental aspect of fostering love and acceptance within families.

Tweetable Quotes

• "My House, My Family," is dedicated to families who aim to ensure their children don't feel marginalized due to differences like being deaf. – Hope
• "If parents end up reading the book for their children for 25 nights in a row because it becomes a favorite, the book still retains its charm and evokes beautiful memories as children fall asleep." – Hope
• "Pause, listen, and understand what's going on in a child's world instead of imposing one's own ideals and schedules onto them." - Hope

Resources Mentioned

• Helping Families be Happy Podcast Apple
• https://hopeeditors.com/
• Podcast Editing

The Back-to-School Balancing Act with Donna Tetreault

In today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Christopher Robbins, co-founder of Familius Publishing, husband, father of nine, author, fisherman, backpacker, and aspirational musician based in the Central Valley of California, talks with guest Donna Tetreault. She is a national TV parenting journalist, seen on NBC News, The Today Show, Dr. Phil, The Doctors, and The Talk on CBS. She is also seen regularly in Los Angeles on KCBS/KCAL, NBC's California Live, KTLA, and Spectrum News One. The episode focuses on discussing how to support children as they return to school.

Episode Highlights

• 00:59: Donna's work has been featured on prominent shows such as the Today Show, The Talk, The Doctors, and Dr. Phil. She has also written for prestigious institutions like Harvard's Graduate School of Education, U.S. News & World Report, parents.com, Your Teen magazine, and Thrive Global.
• 02:17: Donna and Christopher discuss, the dynamics and challenges of the back-to-school transition for families.
• 02:40: Donna and Christopher delve into the array of emotions that parents and children may feel at the start of the school year, ranging from excitement to anxiety, and the various levels of preparedness.
• 03:00: Donna suggests that heading back to school is an opportune time to introduce a family meeting.
• 05:59: Christopher acknowledges the value of being a supportive presence behind the child, helping them reach their goals and fostering their independence.
• 07:50: Donna shares the role of friendships in education and offers practical guidance for parents on supporting their children's social interactions and relationships at school.
• 08:48: Moving on to teenagers, Donna emphasizes the importance of teenagers' involvement in school activities like athletics, clubs, and the arts to help build bonds with peers.
• 09:20: Christopher shares a practical tip for parents to get to know their child's friends by inviting them over and being welcoming, even opening the refrigerator to offer food.
• 10:33: Donna shares her experience of creating vision boards with their own children since they were little and how the process has evolved.
• 11:43: Donna and Christopher discuss the challenge of balancing academics and extracurricular activities.
• 13:40: Monday nights are always reserved for a family night in their household. During this time, they engage in activities like making pizza, playing games, and having conversations. This dedicated family time helps foster connections and maintain a healthy balance between various aspects of life.
• 15:05: The conversation touches on the idea of learning and growing from experiences, embracing failures, and trusting in the process of self-discovery and decision-making.
• 17:50: Donna provides valuable advice and perspectives for parents on supporting their children's growth, education, and well-being, emphasizing trust, open communication, and fostering a balanced and supportive environment.

3 Key Points

1. Donna highlights the importance of family communication and involvement in supporting students' success in school.
2. Donna and Christopher offer practical strategies for parents to support their children's social interactions and friendships at different stages of their education.
3. Donna emphasizes the concept of balance and effective ways parents can guide their children to achieve both academic success and well-rounded development through extracurricular activities.

Tweetable Quotes

• "Kids with friends in school tend to perform better academically." – Donna
• "Parents help their children prioritize their school responsibilities while also engaging in extracurricular activities they enjoy. The goal is to ensure that technology doesn't interfere with these pursuits." – Donna
• Allowing parents to trust their kids in this academic journey their own journey, that there are going to be failures. There's going to be successes and those failures matter, and we have to allow them to fail and just trust." - Donna

Resources Mentioned

• Helping Families be Happy Podcast Apple
• Podcast Editing

 

From Chaos to Creativity with Kristine Pack of the Family Fun Pack

On today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Dr. Carla Marie Manley, a clinical psychologist and author from Sonoma County, California, talks with guest Kristine Pack. She is a YouTuber known for her YouTube channel "Family Fun Pack." The podcast aims to explore various aspects of family, love, and relationships. Christine discusses her YouTube channel and her experiences as a mother. The conversation focuses on her role in her family and her online presence.

Episode Highlights

• 01:34: Kristine shares how she manages the challenges of raising seven kids in the modern world.
• 01:52: Kristine explains that managing her seven children involves several strategies. She emphasizes the importance of having a schedule, although she notes that the schedule isn't overly strict. As long as she accomplishes what needs to be done on a daily basis for everyone, she's satisfied.
• 03:20: Dr. Carla Marie Manley expresses admiration for Kristine's courage to go on a month-long road trip with her family.
• 04:02: Managing Kristine's YouTube channel is a substantial commitment for everyone in her family, akin to a full-time job.
• 06:35: Kristine used to suffer from migraines but hasn't experienced one in years, which she attributes to her regular exercise regimen.
• 07:39: Kristine shares her YouTube journey. She explains that it all began in 2011 with a video she made for her mother-in-law, capturing their twins going to bed. At that time, she used YouTube to share the video as it was the most convenient option.
• 09:40: Given her losses, Christine decided to use YouTube as a backup for her videos. She began uploading videos to the platform, realizing that they wouldn't be deleted as she had feared. Encouraged by this, she uploaded several videos without any editing since she didn't know how to edit at the time. 
• 11:12: Kristine attributes the popularity to a combination of their family dynamic, the timing of the uploads, and the fact that vlogging wasn't as common then as it is now.
• 12:14: Kristine also reflects on how her approach to YouTube has changed. Initially, they didn't use ads on their videos because she found it rude, but they eventually embraced ads as a way to sustain their channel financially.
• 13:02: Kristine explains her perspective on finding fun in everyday life and how she portrays her family on their YouTube channel.
• 15:59: In today's world, many kids are exposed to adult concepts at a very young age, and she emphasizes the importance of allowing children to just be kids and enjoy their childhood without unnecessary exposure to adult issues.
• 20:16: Reading is not only educational but also provides opportunities for learning and growth, says Kristine.
• 23:07: Kristine prefers her children to use devices in common family spaces like the living room rather than isolating themselves with their devices.
• 23:43: Kristine explains that she is very mindful and observant when it comes to her children's device usage.
• 26:21: Kristine emphasizes the importance of being cautious about the games and platforms they use, avoiding any interaction with strangers, and promptly reporting any suspicious behavior.

 

 

3 Key Points

1. In her pursuit of self-care, Kristine joined a fitness class and later hired a personal trainer to help her on her journey.  Even though her busy schedule and frequent travels make it challenging, she remains committed to training when she's home.
2. Kristine talks about the unpredictable nature of technology and the challenges of preserving meaningful memories in a digital age.
3. Kristine talks about meditation and yoga books for kids, which can promote mindfulness and mental well-being from a young age.

Tweetable Quotes

• "Self-care isn't selfish but rather beneficial for the entire family system." - Kristine Pack
• "YouTube videos have gone from us uploading random stuff that's not edited to being a little bit edited to let's do challenges." - Kristine Pack
• "Focusing on good moments, like spending time together, doing household chores, and enjoying family life, is important for their viewers and helps create a positive atmosphere on their channel." - Kristine Pack
• "Children's books can be amazing sources of valuable lessons and insights for both children and parents." - Kristine Pack
• "Reading plays a significant role in her family's life, especially because they homeschool most of their children." - Kristine Pack

Resources Mentioned

• Helping Families be Happy Podcast Apple
• Podcast Editing

Empowering Kids through Food Education with Brooke Jorden

On this episode of the "Helping Families be Happy Podcast," host, Christopher Robbins husband and father of nine, residing in the Central Valley of California talks to Brooke Jordan, who is introduced as having a BA in English and editing from Brigham Young University. 

 

She has 10 years of experience in the publishing industry and currently serves as the editorial director at Familius. Brooke Jordan is also a prolific author with over 20 books to her credit, including the "Lit for Little Hand" series, "I Dig Bathtime," and "How Does Our Food Grow." She has worked in collaboration with the United Nations Organization Kitchen Connection. Additionally, she is an award-winning editor and book designer.

 

This episode promises to be an insightful discussion about instilling healthy food habits in children and understanding the broader implications of food choices on individuals and the environment.

 

Episode Highlights:

• 01:05: Christopher Robbins and Brooke Jordan explore the topic of where our food comes from and how to help children understand and appreciate the journey from farm to plate.
• 01:39: Brooke Jordan is the author of the book "How Does Our Food Grow?" The book delves into various angles of exploring how food is produced and its connection to fitness and health.
• 02:58: Brooke explains the natural collaboration between her book, "How Does Our Food Grow?" and Kitchen Connection, which is a part of the United Nations.
• 04:32: The podcast episode discusses the importance of exposing children to a wide variety of flavors early on to reduce picky eating tendencies as they grow.
• 04:58: Christopher Robbins, shares his experience of moving from Utah to California and being surprised that oranges can be picked directly from trees.
• 05:56: Brooke shares an anecdote about the surprise of picking oranges from trees in California and highlights how such experiences can spark curiosity in children.
• 07:02: Brooke Jordan emphasizes the importance of teaching children about the global food system and how various foods are transported from different regions to provide the diversity of options people love.
• 08:50: Brooke highlights the interactive and experiential approach of teaching children about food origins, encouraging them to become curious and informed about the sources of the food they consume.
• 10:50: Brooke Jordan explains her parenting philosophy of not categorizing foods as "good" or "bad" but focusing on the impact of different foods on the body. Instead of labeling foods as healthy or unhealthy, she emphasizes teaching children what each food does in their bodies.
• 12:00: By teaching children about the specific benefits of various foods, Brooke aims to empower them to make informed choices without feeling guilty about occasional indulgences.
• 13:55: Brooke points out that beans when paired with rice, create a complete protein, which has significant implications for addressing global hunger problems.
• 15:04: Brooke discusses the importance of choosing a more plant-based diet, even if not fully vegetarian, as it requires less water compared to livestock farming.
• 16:05: Brooke emphasizes the importance of approaching environmental issues and food choices with children in a positive and empowering manner.

 

3 Key Highlights

1. This episode provides valuable insights into fostering a deeper understanding and appreciation of agriculture and the sources of our food.
2. Brooke talks about the significance of exploring different foods and fostering an appreciation for the global food system and the diverse ways in which food is grown and transported.
3. Brooke explains the critical role of legumes and plant-based foods in sustainable agriculture and the significant impact these food choices can have on our planet's well-being.

Tweetable Quotes

• “Certain fruits and vegetables can be picked directly from trees, such as apples and oranges. However, other foods involve consuming different parts of the plant, which may not be immediately visible. For instance, broccoli and cauliflower are eaten for their flowers and potatoes and sweet potatoes are grown underground.” – Brooke
• “Various foods require different conditions to thrive. Some foods need more water, others more sunlight, and some require more energy overall to cultivate. These nuances provide an opportunity for engaging conversations with children, starting with the basic understanding of how certain fruits and vegetables grow and building upon that knowledge to explore their specific requirements for growth.” – Brooke
• “By understanding the impact of different foods on their bodies, children can make well-informed decisions and develop a healthier approach to eating.” - Brooke

 

Resources Mentioned

• Helping Families Be Happy Podcast Apple
• Podcast Editing

 

Unlocking Self-Esteem and Overcoming ADHD’s Impact with Raun Melmed and Caroline Bliss Larsen

In today's episode, host Dr. Carla Marie Manley, a clinical psychologist and author from Sonoma County, California, talks to Raun Melmed  Caroline Larsen, who have co-authored the book "Marvin's Monster Diary 5: ADHD Self-Esteem Blues." The episode promises to be an incredible discussion about the power of books, ADHD, self-esteem, and finding ways to brighten up amidst challenges. Listeners can look forward to gaining valuable insights and information about supporting families and individuals dealing with ADHD and related issues.

 

Episode Highlights:

• 01:06: Caroline describes herself as an editor and web accessibility specialist currently residing in Utah. She expresses her passion for books and writing, especially the "Marvin's Monster Diary" series, which she co-authored with Dr. Raun Melmed.
• 02:01: The book holds significant personal meaning for Caroline, as the topic of self-esteem hits close to home. She mentions that working on this book has been a joyful experience, and she hopes that it makes a positive difference for children. The book's aim is to teach kids valuable tools for understanding and managing their emotions and behaviors.
• 02:35: As a developmental pediatrician, Raun's daily iinteracts dailyhildren facing various challenges, such as anxiety, poor self-esteem, and ADHD.
• 03:23: Raun emphasizes the importance of self-esteem, stating that it is a significant and essential issue for everyone, including parents who wish for their children to have good self-esteem.
• 04:13: Raun acknowledges that while bibliotherapy, or self-help therapy through books, is only a part of the overall treatment for any individual, the books are appropriately specific, especially when addressing self-esteem issues in typical children and those with ADHD, who often face significant challenges. 
• 06:54: Having ADHD is not solely about being hyperactive; the key factor is the harm and dysfunction it causes in various aspects of a child's life. One of the most significant challenges for children with ADHD is the associated difficulties with self-esteem.
• 08:16: As per Raun both parents and children play a role in changing and improving self-esteem.
• 09:12: A certain level of perfectionism can contribute to success, he also points out that chronic perfectionism can become problematic when it starts affecting other aspects of the child's life, such as their socialization with peers.
• 10:04: Individuals with low self-esteem may exhibit tendencies toward violence, bullying, or being bullied, while those with positive self-esteem tend to have better interactions with others and overall better outcomes in life.
• 12:05: Having structure in a child's routine can be a way to promote optimal anxiety. Providing a schedule and setting expectations can help strike the right balance for optimal performance.
• 13:54: Self-esteem is greatly influenced by self-talk, and it's crucial for parents to recognize when their child uses negative self-talk and correct it.
• 16:20: Parents should put their children in situations where they can struggle a little bit but have the potential to overcome obstacles and achieve success. It's essential to find a balance between providing challenges and ensuring that the goals are realistic and attainable.
• 17:43: Parents should recognize and encourage their children's strengths and talents. Focusing on their strengths can boost their confidence and sense of accomplishment.
• 18:28: Parents should pay attention to their child's self-talk and intervene when they hear negative self-statements. By redirecting negative self-talk to more positive and supportive language, parents can help improve their child's self-esteem.
• 18:53: Instead of using generic phrases like "good job" or "nice work," be specific in your praise. Acknowledge the particular effort or accomplishment of the child.
• 20:02: Raun talks about the concept of "Family Self-Esteem Builder," an activity instigated by Marvin's grandma in the book.
• 22:44: Raun mentions other tools and activities from the book, such as the "Anti-Negativity Elixir," family coat of arms, and other practical approaches to help children learn about their strengths and boost their self-esteem. He encourages parents to try these tools, even though they might seem unconventional at first, as they can have a significant impact on a child's self-esteem and confidence.
• 24:04: Caroline mentions that some individuals may have had a good childhood but still struggle with self-esteem and mental health due to the stress and pressures of life.
• 26:07: Social media can play a role in affecting self-esteem, not necessarily because of the platform itself, but more so how individuals perceive and compare themselves to others.
• 29:51: Caroline mentions that children today face unique challenges, including awareness of safety concerns, like active shooter drills in schools, and exposure to political and social divisions.
• 32:01: Raun and Caroline emphasize the importance of being positive role models for children and instilling hope in them. They encourage parents to remain optimistic, address stress in healthy ways, and believe in the potential for positive change, even amidst the challenges of the modern world.

3 Key Points:

1. Raun discusses the effectiveness of the "Marvin's Monster Diary" series as a form of bibliotherapy for children, particularly focusing on self-esteem and typical problems that kids, including those with ADHD, may face.
2. Raun discusses the impact of chronic perfectionism on a child's well-being and socialization.
3. While many discussions about self-esteem and mental health often focus on childhood trauma or challenging relationships, Caroline points out that external stressors and the fast-paced nature of modern life can also contribute

Tweetable Quotes:

• "The characters in the series encounter challenges, and they practice the skills that the authors aim to impart to the readers. As the story progresses, the characters improve their behaviors, make more friends, and have happier families, demonstrating the positive impact of learning and growth." – Raun
• "Self-esteem is the capacity to feel good and comfortable with oneself. Children with good self-esteem have confidence in their worth, abilities, and self-respect. They can approach problems with self-assurance and handle their own experiences positively. When kids take on challenges and succeed, it greatly enhances their self-esteem." – Raun
• "It's important for parents to identify when their children have difficulty feeling sure of themselves or handling mistakes, as these may be signs of self-esteem issues." – Raun
• "Providing a schedule and setting expectations can help strike the right balance for optimal performance. They also emphasize the importance of having conversations with kindness and understanding to support the child's growth and well-being." - Caroline

Resources Mentioned

• Helping Families Be Happy Podcast Apple
• www.melmedcenter.com
• https://carolineblisslarsen.com/
• Podcast Editing