Helping Families Be Happy

Growing Up Happy: Navigating Children’s Emotional Health with Hillary Waller

On today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Christopher Robbins, co-founder of Familius Publishing, husband, father of nine, author, fisherman, backpacker, and aspirational musician based in the Central Valley of California, is going to talk to Hillary Waller, Director of Education and Programming and a psychotherapist at the Postpartum Stress Center. She offers individual and group therapy services, manages training and education programs, and leads educational in-services at the center.

 

Episode Highlights

• 01:21: Hillary Waller's interest in parent-child relationships led her to pursue a Master's degree in counseling psychology with a specialization in marriage and family therapy. She now conducts specialized training sessions for organizations seeking expertise in the treatment of perinatal mood and anxiety disorders.
• 02:07: Christopher and Hillary’s discussion topic revolves around the increasing prevalence of anxiety and depression among today's children, which is described as almost reaching epidemic proportions.
• 03:55: Hillary encourages parents to reach out to therapists and professionals who can offer insights into what is normal behavior and what may be a cause for concern. She suggests that when a parent's instinct tells them something isn't right, that should be considered a red flag, prompting them to seek help and guidance from qualified professionals.
• 05:00: Being closely connected with their child allows parents to recognize when something deviates from the norm and may require further attention or investigation.
• 05:27: Christopher emphasizes the importance of being present with our children and getting to know them well enough to recognize when something is an outlier or deviates from their usual behavior.
• 06:30: Hillary acknowledges the developmental stage of teenagers, who simultaneously desire their parents' involvement and support while also seeking independence and privacy. She emphasizes the need to strike a balance between respecting their independence and understanding when to intervene when necessary.
• 08:11: Christopher shares a personal experience of seeking therapy with their young son and realizing that therapy was not just for the child but also for the parents. They then ask if using phrases like "well-being" might be more appropriate than saying "mental health."
• 10:25: Hillary highlights the significance of parents learning self-regulation strategies so they can effectively communicate with their children about their feelings. By providing children with language to express their emotions, parents help them develop emotional intelligence.
• 13:19: Hillary suggests that if a parent already has their own therapist, they can initiate a conversation about their child's mental health with them.
• 14:30: In response to the host's question about common denominators or triggers for children's mental health issues, Hillary Waller acknowledges that it's a complex question because there are numerous factors that contribute to children experiencing anxiety and depression.
• 16:32: Hillary Waller emphasizes the importance of physical presence and eye contact when sitting with children and teenagers to discuss their feelings and challenges. She mentions that when people are overwhelmed and stressed, their bodies often feel tense, which is closely related to anxiety.
• 17:20: Being present and making eye contact with your child, regardless of their age, can have a positive and calming effect.
• 18:21: The love parents have for their child is the most important and powerful tool they have in helping their child through difficult times.

 

 

 

3 Key Points

1. Christopher and Hillary discuss the issue of the stigma associated with mental illness, anxiety, and depression. They acknowledge that there might be generational factors or societal influences contributing to this stigma.
2. Hillary suggests that using the terminology of "emotional health" can be less stigmatized than "mental health." She encourages open conversations about feelings and emotional well-being from a very young age, regardless of the child's age, to create a more accepting and supportive environment for discussing these issues.
3. Hillary Waller suggests that using books can be a great way to initiate conversations about mental well-being with children.

 

 

Tweetable Quotes

• “Parents particularly new mothers, should trust their instincts and learn how to find answers about their children's well-being.” - Hillary Waller
• “While there is a wealth of content available, it's important to limit the number of resources to avoid feeling overwhelmed.” - Hillary Waller
• “Life can be challenging, and it's essential to help children and teens learn how to navigate and work through these challenges.” - Hillary Waller

 

 

Resources Mentioned

• Helping Families be Happy Podcast Apple
• postpartumstress.com
• Podcast Editing

From Summer Freedom to School Screens with Jessica Speer

On today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Adina Oberman, talks to Jessica Speer. She is an award-winning author known for her books "Not Really Friends," "Middle School Safety Goggles Advised," and the newly released "The Phone Book," which are interactive books aimed at preteens and teens. These books entertain while addressing important topics, blending humor, science, stories, and insights to help young readers navigate challenges during adolescence.

Episode Highlights:

• 02:14: Jessica shares the challenges of children using devices more frequently or differently than they did during the summer.
• 02:45: Jessica gives her advice by suggesting practical steps for families to prepare for the school year transition.
• 04:28: Jessica emphasizes the importance of encouraging healthy communication between children and their teachers when it comes to using technology. 
• 05:20: Digital literacy is a crucial new form of literacy, given that so much information is now presented on screens. With the rise of digital communication, it's challenging for kids to discern what is true and what is not, and even the emotional nuances in messages can be lost.
• 05:46: To help children become more media literate, Jessica suggests a gradual process that starts with teaching them how to assess the credibility of information.
• 06:21: In today's parenting landscape, a significant aspect involves guiding kids to be safe online, promoting good digital citizenship, and fostering literacy.
• 06:39: With the power that devices provide, children can communicate through texts and messages either positively and kindly or in a harmful way.
• 06:57: By teaching kids about their digital influence and encouraging them to make positive choices online, parents can help mold their children into responsible and empathetic digital citizens.
• 07:39: Digital social interactions can be even trickier than in-person interactions due to the absence of nonverbal cues and the involvement of more people in online conversations.
• 08:46: Family tech agreements are widely available online, but they can vary in content. Parents need to review a few options and choose one that best suits their family's dynamics and values. However, the tech agreement is just the starting point.
• 10:33: Jessica provides valuable guidance on how to handle situations where things may not be going well about technology use and its impact on various aspects of a child's life.
• 15:03: Jessica highlights the importance of helping kids create healthy habits around screen time.

3 Key Highlights

1. Jessica discusses how her book "The Phone Book" helps both adult and younger readers understand media literacy in the context of phones, screens, and the internet.
2. Jessica explains how it is crucial to identify specific areas or times in the house where screens are not allowed.
3. Jessica highlights her approach to "The Phone Book," emphasizing its aim to facilitate important conversations with kids about their phone usage. While the book is written for preteens and early teens, she encourages parents to read it as well to engage in discussions about topics such as stranger danger, digital literacy, digital footprints, and reputation.

Tweetable Quotes

• "In elementary school where children might be encountering devices for the first time or using them more extensively for assignments and testing." - Jessica Speer
• "If a child is having trouble with a device or encountering challenges, they should feel empowered to communicate their issues to their teacher so that they can receive the necessary support." - Jessica Speer
• "By creating a calm and understanding atmosphere, parents can address challenges related to technology use without creating unnecessary tension or conflict. The focus should be on finding solutions together and supporting the child's overall well-being and success." - Jessica Speer

Resources Mentioned

• Helping Families Be Happy Podcast Apple
• https://jessicaspeer.com/
• Podcast Editing

Fostering Family Unity Through Literature with Cynthia Hope

In today's episode, host Dr. Carla Marie Manley, a clinical psychologist and author from Sonoma County, California, talks to Cynthia Hope. She is the author of the book "My House, My Family." She discusses her background, including her family and faith, and mentions that she grew up with parents who had an open home. This episode highlights the interactive and enjoyable aspects of reading with children and Hope's dedication to fostering language development and a love for reading from a young age.

 

Episode Highlights

• 01:04: Hope talks about her background and mentions that her family and faith strongly influence her identity. She dedicates her book to her parents, Reverend Glen, and Betty Keenan, who played a significant role in her life. She highlights how her parents opened their home and hearts to many children, fostering and adopting them. Additionally, her parents built a camp for inner-city children and teenagers, creating a sense of family and community for them.
• 02:13: Hope discusses her parents' work in both an inner-city church and a camp they built, which posed different challenges. She emphasizes the importance of adapting to the circumstance’s life presents and making the best of them.
• 03:18: Hope talks about the various children who became a part of her family through fostering and adoption.
• 05:03: Hope explains the essence of what's inside her book, "My House, My Family." She emphasizes the importance of every child and parent feeling loved and accepted within their family structure, regardless of race, origin, or community.
• 07:39: Carla underscores the importance of showcasing diverse family structures and experiences through literature, allowing readers to connect with and appreciate the richness of different family narratives.
• 09:35: Hope mentions that parents, therapists, and psychologists have shared their experiences of people picking up the book, even in waiting rooms. This indicates that the book's message is resonating and connecting with a wide range of individuals.
• 10:26: Hope expresses her surprise and delight that parents are finding a personal connection to her book. She believes that the book offers comfort and a sense of togetherness for parents as well.
• 11:53: Hope and Carla discuss the joyful and meaningful experiences that books like Hope's can create for families.
• 13:57: Hope emphasizes the diversity of family dynamics and practices depicted in the book, as well as the overarching message of love, acceptance, and togetherness that unites all families.
• 15:31: Hope's book is suitable for children aged 2 to 10 and is a picture book. It's designed to be a quick read, taking less than 5 minutes before bedtime, but also offers opportunities for engagement with children through the bird spotting activity and the discussion questions.
• 16:27: Carla praises the way Hope's book employs the "show, don't tell" approach to demonstrate loving behaviors and actions rather than just instructing them.
• 17:58: Drawing from her own experiences, Hope shares a story about her adopted daughter from Burma. She recalls an incident where her daughter squatted down in the middle of a mall to rest, explaining that it was a behavior she learned from her own culture.
• 18:19: Hope highlights the need for cultural sensitivity, active listening, and embracing children's individuality as important elements of creating an inclusive and loving family environment.
• 19:10: When it comes to children, whether they are biological or come into the family through other means, the key is to listen to them, understand what makes them tick, and avoid pushing one's own agenda onto them.
• 21:05: Carla highlights the importance of family, love, understanding, and inclusivity, as well as the impact that literature and storytelling can have on fostering positive values and relationships within families.

3 Key Points

1. Hope talks about her book's inclusivity and its potential impact on various aspects of society, from families and caregivers to educators and medical professionals, all working together to promote a wholesome sense of family unity.
2. Dr. Carla Marie Manley highlights the importance of the values emphasized in Hope's book and how they contribute to fostering love, acceptance, and kindness within families.
3. Hope's story underscores the value of actively listening, observing, and understanding each child's unique perspective and experiences as a fundamental aspect of fostering love and acceptance within families.

Tweetable Quotes

• "My House, My Family," is dedicated to families who aim to ensure their children don't feel marginalized due to differences like being deaf. – Hope
• "If parents end up reading the book for their children for 25 nights in a row because it becomes a favorite, the book still retains its charm and evokes beautiful memories as children fall asleep." – Hope
• "Pause, listen, and understand what's going on in a child's world instead of imposing one's own ideals and schedules onto them." - Hope

Resources Mentioned

• Helping Families be Happy Podcast Apple
• https://hopeeditors.com/
• Podcast Editing

The Back-to-School Balancing Act with Donna Tetreault

In today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Christopher Robbins, co-founder of Familius Publishing, husband, father of nine, author, fisherman, backpacker, and aspirational musician based in the Central Valley of California, talks with guest Donna Tetreault. She is a national TV parenting journalist, seen on NBC News, The Today Show, Dr. Phil, The Doctors, and The Talk on CBS. She is also seen regularly in Los Angeles on KCBS/KCAL, NBC's California Live, KTLA, and Spectrum News One. The episode focuses on discussing how to support children as they return to school.

Episode Highlights

• 00:59: Donna's work has been featured on prominent shows such as the Today Show, The Talk, The Doctors, and Dr. Phil. She has also written for prestigious institutions like Harvard's Graduate School of Education, U.S. News & World Report, parents.com, Your Teen magazine, and Thrive Global.
• 02:17: Donna and Christopher discuss, the dynamics and challenges of the back-to-school transition for families.
• 02:40: Donna and Christopher delve into the array of emotions that parents and children may feel at the start of the school year, ranging from excitement to anxiety, and the various levels of preparedness.
• 03:00: Donna suggests that heading back to school is an opportune time to introduce a family meeting.
• 05:59: Christopher acknowledges the value of being a supportive presence behind the child, helping them reach their goals and fostering their independence.
• 07:50: Donna shares the role of friendships in education and offers practical guidance for parents on supporting their children's social interactions and relationships at school.
• 08:48: Moving on to teenagers, Donna emphasizes the importance of teenagers' involvement in school activities like athletics, clubs, and the arts to help build bonds with peers.
• 09:20: Christopher shares a practical tip for parents to get to know their child's friends by inviting them over and being welcoming, even opening the refrigerator to offer food.
• 10:33: Donna shares her experience of creating vision boards with their own children since they were little and how the process has evolved.
• 11:43: Donna and Christopher discuss the challenge of balancing academics and extracurricular activities.
• 13:40: Monday nights are always reserved for a family night in their household. During this time, they engage in activities like making pizza, playing games, and having conversations. This dedicated family time helps foster connections and maintain a healthy balance between various aspects of life.
• 15:05: The conversation touches on the idea of learning and growing from experiences, embracing failures, and trusting in the process of self-discovery and decision-making.
• 17:50: Donna provides valuable advice and perspectives for parents on supporting their children's growth, education, and well-being, emphasizing trust, open communication, and fostering a balanced and supportive environment.

3 Key Points

1. Donna highlights the importance of family communication and involvement in supporting students' success in school.
2. Donna and Christopher offer practical strategies for parents to support their children's social interactions and friendships at different stages of their education.
3. Donna emphasizes the concept of balance and effective ways parents can guide their children to achieve both academic success and well-rounded development through extracurricular activities.

Tweetable Quotes

• "Kids with friends in school tend to perform better academically." – Donna
• "Parents help their children prioritize their school responsibilities while also engaging in extracurricular activities they enjoy. The goal is to ensure that technology doesn't interfere with these pursuits." – Donna
• Allowing parents to trust their kids in this academic journey their own journey, that there are going to be failures. There's going to be successes and those failures matter, and we have to allow them to fail and just trust." - Donna

Resources Mentioned

• Helping Families be Happy Podcast Apple
• Podcast Editing

 

From Chaos to Creativity with Kristine Pack of the Family Fun Pack

On today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Dr. Carla Marie Manley, a clinical psychologist and author from Sonoma County, California, talks with guest Kristine Pack. She is a YouTuber known for her YouTube channel "Family Fun Pack." The podcast aims to explore various aspects of family, love, and relationships. Christine discusses her YouTube channel and her experiences as a mother. The conversation focuses on her role in her family and her online presence.

Episode Highlights

• 01:34: Kristine shares how she manages the challenges of raising seven kids in the modern world.
• 01:52: Kristine explains that managing her seven children involves several strategies. She emphasizes the importance of having a schedule, although she notes that the schedule isn't overly strict. As long as she accomplishes what needs to be done on a daily basis for everyone, she's satisfied.
• 03:20: Dr. Carla Marie Manley expresses admiration for Kristine's courage to go on a month-long road trip with her family.
• 04:02: Managing Kristine's YouTube channel is a substantial commitment for everyone in her family, akin to a full-time job.
• 06:35: Kristine used to suffer from migraines but hasn't experienced one in years, which she attributes to her regular exercise regimen.
• 07:39: Kristine shares her YouTube journey. She explains that it all began in 2011 with a video she made for her mother-in-law, capturing their twins going to bed. At that time, she used YouTube to share the video as it was the most convenient option.
• 09:40: Given her losses, Christine decided to use YouTube as a backup for her videos. She began uploading videos to the platform, realizing that they wouldn't be deleted as she had feared. Encouraged by this, she uploaded several videos without any editing since she didn't know how to edit at the time. 
• 11:12: Kristine attributes the popularity to a combination of their family dynamic, the timing of the uploads, and the fact that vlogging wasn't as common then as it is now.
• 12:14: Kristine also reflects on how her approach to YouTube has changed. Initially, they didn't use ads on their videos because she found it rude, but they eventually embraced ads as a way to sustain their channel financially.
• 13:02: Kristine explains her perspective on finding fun in everyday life and how she portrays her family on their YouTube channel.
• 15:59: In today's world, many kids are exposed to adult concepts at a very young age, and she emphasizes the importance of allowing children to just be kids and enjoy their childhood without unnecessary exposure to adult issues.
• 20:16: Reading is not only educational but also provides opportunities for learning and growth, says Kristine.
• 23:07: Kristine prefers her children to use devices in common family spaces like the living room rather than isolating themselves with their devices.
• 23:43: Kristine explains that she is very mindful and observant when it comes to her children's device usage.
• 26:21: Kristine emphasizes the importance of being cautious about the games and platforms they use, avoiding any interaction with strangers, and promptly reporting any suspicious behavior.

 

 

3 Key Points

1. In her pursuit of self-care, Kristine joined a fitness class and later hired a personal trainer to help her on her journey.  Even though her busy schedule and frequent travels make it challenging, she remains committed to training when she's home.
2. Kristine talks about the unpredictable nature of technology and the challenges of preserving meaningful memories in a digital age.
3. Kristine talks about meditation and yoga books for kids, which can promote mindfulness and mental well-being from a young age.

Tweetable Quotes

• "Self-care isn't selfish but rather beneficial for the entire family system." - Kristine Pack
• "YouTube videos have gone from us uploading random stuff that's not edited to being a little bit edited to let's do challenges." - Kristine Pack
• "Focusing on good moments, like spending time together, doing household chores, and enjoying family life, is important for their viewers and helps create a positive atmosphere on their channel." - Kristine Pack
• "Children's books can be amazing sources of valuable lessons and insights for both children and parents." - Kristine Pack
• "Reading plays a significant role in her family's life, especially because they homeschool most of their children." - Kristine Pack

Resources Mentioned

• Helping Families be Happy Podcast Apple
• Podcast Editing

Empowering Kids through Food Education with Brooke Jorden

On this episode of the "Helping Families be Happy Podcast," host, Christopher Robbins husband and father of nine, residing in the Central Valley of California talks to Brooke Jordan, who is introduced as having a BA in English and editing from Brigham Young University. 

 

She has 10 years of experience in the publishing industry and currently serves as the editorial director at Familius. Brooke Jordan is also a prolific author with over 20 books to her credit, including the "Lit for Little Hand" series, "I Dig Bathtime," and "How Does Our Food Grow." She has worked in collaboration with the United Nations Organization Kitchen Connection. Additionally, she is an award-winning editor and book designer.

 

This episode promises to be an insightful discussion about instilling healthy food habits in children and understanding the broader implications of food choices on individuals and the environment.

 

Episode Highlights:

• 01:05: Christopher Robbins and Brooke Jordan explore the topic of where our food comes from and how to help children understand and appreciate the journey from farm to plate.
• 01:39: Brooke Jordan is the author of the book "How Does Our Food Grow?" The book delves into various angles of exploring how food is produced and its connection to fitness and health.
• 02:58: Brooke explains the natural collaboration between her book, "How Does Our Food Grow?" and Kitchen Connection, which is a part of the United Nations.
• 04:32: The podcast episode discusses the importance of exposing children to a wide variety of flavors early on to reduce picky eating tendencies as they grow.
• 04:58: Christopher Robbins, shares his experience of moving from Utah to California and being surprised that oranges can be picked directly from trees.
• 05:56: Brooke shares an anecdote about the surprise of picking oranges from trees in California and highlights how such experiences can spark curiosity in children.
• 07:02: Brooke Jordan emphasizes the importance of teaching children about the global food system and how various foods are transported from different regions to provide the diversity of options people love.
• 08:50: Brooke highlights the interactive and experiential approach of teaching children about food origins, encouraging them to become curious and informed about the sources of the food they consume.
• 10:50: Brooke Jordan explains her parenting philosophy of not categorizing foods as "good" or "bad" but focusing on the impact of different foods on the body. Instead of labeling foods as healthy or unhealthy, she emphasizes teaching children what each food does in their bodies.
• 12:00: By teaching children about the specific benefits of various foods, Brooke aims to empower them to make informed choices without feeling guilty about occasional indulgences.
• 13:55: Brooke points out that beans when paired with rice, create a complete protein, which has significant implications for addressing global hunger problems.
• 15:04: Brooke discusses the importance of choosing a more plant-based diet, even if not fully vegetarian, as it requires less water compared to livestock farming.
• 16:05: Brooke emphasizes the importance of approaching environmental issues and food choices with children in a positive and empowering manner.

 

3 Key Highlights

1. This episode provides valuable insights into fostering a deeper understanding and appreciation of agriculture and the sources of our food.
2. Brooke talks about the significance of exploring different foods and fostering an appreciation for the global food system and the diverse ways in which food is grown and transported.
3. Brooke explains the critical role of legumes and plant-based foods in sustainable agriculture and the significant impact these food choices can have on our planet's well-being.

Tweetable Quotes

• “Certain fruits and vegetables can be picked directly from trees, such as apples and oranges. However, other foods involve consuming different parts of the plant, which may not be immediately visible. For instance, broccoli and cauliflower are eaten for their flowers and potatoes and sweet potatoes are grown underground.” – Brooke
• “Various foods require different conditions to thrive. Some foods need more water, others more sunlight, and some require more energy overall to cultivate. These nuances provide an opportunity for engaging conversations with children, starting with the basic understanding of how certain fruits and vegetables grow and building upon that knowledge to explore their specific requirements for growth.” – Brooke
• “By understanding the impact of different foods on their bodies, children can make well-informed decisions and develop a healthier approach to eating.” - Brooke

 

Resources Mentioned

• Helping Families Be Happy Podcast Apple
• Podcast Editing

 

Unlocking Self-Esteem and Overcoming ADHD’s Impact with Raun Melmed and Caroline Bliss Larsen

In today's episode, host Dr. Carla Marie Manley, a clinical psychologist and author from Sonoma County, California, talks to Raun Melmed  Caroline Larsen, who have co-authored the book "Marvin's Monster Diary 5: ADHD Self-Esteem Blues." The episode promises to be an incredible discussion about the power of books, ADHD, self-esteem, and finding ways to brighten up amidst challenges. Listeners can look forward to gaining valuable insights and information about supporting families and individuals dealing with ADHD and related issues.

 

Episode Highlights:

• 01:06: Caroline describes herself as an editor and web accessibility specialist currently residing in Utah. She expresses her passion for books and writing, especially the "Marvin's Monster Diary" series, which she co-authored with Dr. Raun Melmed.
• 02:01: The book holds significant personal meaning for Caroline, as the topic of self-esteem hits close to home. She mentions that working on this book has been a joyful experience, and she hopes that it makes a positive difference for children. The book's aim is to teach kids valuable tools for understanding and managing their emotions and behaviors.
• 02:35: As a developmental pediatrician, Raun's daily iinteracts dailyhildren facing various challenges, such as anxiety, poor self-esteem, and ADHD.
• 03:23: Raun emphasizes the importance of self-esteem, stating that it is a significant and essential issue for everyone, including parents who wish for their children to have good self-esteem.
• 04:13: Raun acknowledges that while bibliotherapy, or self-help therapy through books, is only a part of the overall treatment for any individual, the books are appropriately specific, especially when addressing self-esteem issues in typical children and those with ADHD, who often face significant challenges. 
• 06:54: Having ADHD is not solely about being hyperactive; the key factor is the harm and dysfunction it causes in various aspects of a child's life. One of the most significant challenges for children with ADHD is the associated difficulties with self-esteem.
• 08:16: As per Raun both parents and children play a role in changing and improving self-esteem.
• 09:12: A certain level of perfectionism can contribute to success, he also points out that chronic perfectionism can become problematic when it starts affecting other aspects of the child's life, such as their socialization with peers.
• 10:04: Individuals with low self-esteem may exhibit tendencies toward violence, bullying, or being bullied, while those with positive self-esteem tend to have better interactions with others and overall better outcomes in life.
• 12:05: Having structure in a child's routine can be a way to promote optimal anxiety. Providing a schedule and setting expectations can help strike the right balance for optimal performance.
• 13:54: Self-esteem is greatly influenced by self-talk, and it's crucial for parents to recognize when their child uses negative self-talk and correct it.
• 16:20: Parents should put their children in situations where they can struggle a little bit but have the potential to overcome obstacles and achieve success. It's essential to find a balance between providing challenges and ensuring that the goals are realistic and attainable.
• 17:43: Parents should recognize and encourage their children's strengths and talents. Focusing on their strengths can boost their confidence and sense of accomplishment.
• 18:28: Parents should pay attention to their child's self-talk and intervene when they hear negative self-statements. By redirecting negative self-talk to more positive and supportive language, parents can help improve their child's self-esteem.
• 18:53: Instead of using generic phrases like "good job" or "nice work," be specific in your praise. Acknowledge the particular effort or accomplishment of the child.
• 20:02: Raun talks about the concept of "Family Self-Esteem Builder," an activity instigated by Marvin's grandma in the book.
• 22:44: Raun mentions other tools and activities from the book, such as the "Anti-Negativity Elixir," family coat of arms, and other practical approaches to help children learn about their strengths and boost their self-esteem. He encourages parents to try these tools, even though they might seem unconventional at first, as they can have a significant impact on a child's self-esteem and confidence.
• 24:04: Caroline mentions that some individuals may have had a good childhood but still struggle with self-esteem and mental health due to the stress and pressures of life.
• 26:07: Social media can play a role in affecting self-esteem, not necessarily because of the platform itself, but more so how individuals perceive and compare themselves to others.
• 29:51: Caroline mentions that children today face unique challenges, including awareness of safety concerns, like active shooter drills in schools, and exposure to political and social divisions.
• 32:01: Raun and Caroline emphasize the importance of being positive role models for children and instilling hope in them. They encourage parents to remain optimistic, address stress in healthy ways, and believe in the potential for positive change, even amidst the challenges of the modern world.

3 Key Points:

1. Raun discusses the effectiveness of the "Marvin's Monster Diary" series as a form of bibliotherapy for children, particularly focusing on self-esteem and typical problems that kids, including those with ADHD, may face.
2. Raun discusses the impact of chronic perfectionism on a child's well-being and socialization.
3. While many discussions about self-esteem and mental health often focus on childhood trauma or challenging relationships, Caroline points out that external stressors and the fast-paced nature of modern life can also contribute

Tweetable Quotes:

• "The characters in the series encounter challenges, and they practice the skills that the authors aim to impart to the readers. As the story progresses, the characters improve their behaviors, make more friends, and have happier families, demonstrating the positive impact of learning and growth." – Raun
• "Self-esteem is the capacity to feel good and comfortable with oneself. Children with good self-esteem have confidence in their worth, abilities, and self-respect. They can approach problems with self-assurance and handle their own experiences positively. When kids take on challenges and succeed, it greatly enhances their self-esteem." – Raun
• "It's important for parents to identify when their children have difficulty feeling sure of themselves or handling mistakes, as these may be signs of self-esteem issues." – Raun
• "Providing a schedule and setting expectations can help strike the right balance for optimal performance. They also emphasize the importance of having conversations with kindness and understanding to support the child's growth and well-being." - Caroline

Resources Mentioned

• Helping Families Be Happy Podcast Apple
• www.melmedcenter.com
• https://carolineblisslarsen.com/
• Podcast Editing

The Power of Art and Healing with Robin Hall

On today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Dr. Carla Marie Manly, a clinical psychologist, wellness advocate, and author based in Sonoma County, California is going to talk to Robin Hall. She has written a book called "The Littlest Weaver." Robin describes herself as someone who enjoys creating and has a variety of creative outlets such as writing, quilting, and basket making. 

 

Episode Highlights:

• 02:39: Carla asks Robin about her basket weaving skills. Robin explains that she started weaving baskets in 2016 when she took a class at the Community Center with a kind woman named Susan. 
• 04:00: Robin discusses her favorite color, green, and her experience living in a less green environment.
• 04:18: Carla asks about the connection between green and Robin's book, "The Loose Weaver.
• 05:10: Robin explains how the Tohoku tsunami and earthquake in Japan inspired her to write the story of a man who moved away from the sea to heal.
• 06:30: Robin shares details of her book, "The Littlest Weaver," and displays a spread with beautiful illustrations of the Appalachian area.
• 07:49: Carla discusses the 10 habits of happy families and asks how Robin's book fits into those habits.
• 08:23: Robin emphasizes on the themes of healing, small acts of kindness, and the power of art in her book.
• 09:31: Robin shares how she hopes her book will inspire families to create together and plans to create videos demonstrating weaving techniques.
• 12:02: Robin envisions her book as a source of joy and recognition of sadness, helping families move towards joy and unity while appreciating each other's presence.
• 13:00: Robin expresses the desire for carpets that children can create themselves, introducing the idea of a coloring page for creating their own carpets.
• 13:19: Carla admits the fear of acknowledging grief and emphasizes the importance of experiencing joy during the grieving process. They mention that joy and grief can coexist and that moments of joy can be found even while mourning.
• 14:18: Carla mentions that grief can extend beyond the loss of a human being, including the loss of pets or relationships.
• 16:15: Robin highlights the significance of persistence and following one's passion in any field or role.

3 Key Points:

1. Robin briefly introduces her book and reads a short passage from the introduction.
2. Carla discusses the connection between creativity and healing and asks about the potential use of the book for families in need of healing.
3. Robin discovered the story of 'The Little Sweeper' after the Tohoku tsunami and earthquake in Japan in 2011, a tragic event that touched the lives of many.

Tweetable Quotes:

• "Taking pottery courses and engaging in repetitive activities like knitting calms me down and bring me joy." - Robin Hall
• "I love exploring different patterns and tools in pottery, it's a soothing and creative process." - Robin Hall

• "Creating baskets and other handmade items has become my passion, filling my basement with a variety of beautiful creations." - Robin Hall
• "I absolutely adore the color green; it's my favorite color and I find it incredibly soothing." - Robin Hall
• "Living in a green environment is essential to me, as I felt a bit out of place in the dry, desert-like surroundings of 29 Palms." - Robin Hall
• "The book highlights the resilience and courage of a father who returns to his devastated home, showcasing the strength of the human spirit." - Robin Hall

Resources Mentioned

• Helping Families Be Happy Podcast Apple
• Familius.com
• Podcast Editing

Unleashing Happiness through Flexibility and Lifelong Learning with Louise Sattler

On today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Dr. Carla Marie Manly, a clinical psychologist, wellness advocate, and author based in Sonoma County, California is going to talk to Louise Sattler, a content creator dedicated to spreading fun and joy for families and children, particularly those with special needs and talents. 

 

Episode Highlights:

• 01:22 - Louise compares herself to Gumby, emphasizing her flexibility, curiosity, and constant learning. She mentions her belief in being a lifelong learner and her generous nature.
• 04:12 - Carla acknowledges the beautiful charts and resources provided by Louise including sign expressions in English and Spanish, as well as important words and a bookmark. 
• 08:02: Carla and Louise discuss the importance of communication cards for first responders, parents, and kids.
• 08:58: Carla mentions the foundational values of healthy families and asks how Louise's work contributes to family happiness.
• 09:28: Louise acknowledges that their work as a psychologist is not always about delivering happy news, as they often have to inform parents about difficulties their children may be facing, such as autism. However, Louise finds satisfaction in providing parents with resources, connections, and support during challenging times.
• 10:57: Louise expresses how providing solace to parents going through difficult times brings them comfort. She mentions her personal experience as both a parent and a professional, highlighting the challenges she faced with her own child's reading difficulties.
• 11:35: Carla commends Louise for naturally addressing the silver lining in their work, which involves providing tools and resources to families. 
• 12:22: Louise emphasizes the importance of teamwork and collaboration in supporting families and children. She mentions relying on a team of experts and professionals to provide comprehensive support for parents and children going through challenges.
• 14:08: Louise suggests referring to children with special needs as having "unique challenges" or "unique talents" instead of disabilities. She emphasizes the importance of recognizing and celebrating the different lenses through which individuals perceive the world.
• 14:32 - Carla shares a personal anecdote about their sister with Marfan syndrome, highlighting her exceptional intelligence, creativity, and stamina. She emphasizes the value of focusing on individuals' unique talents and what they bring to the world.
• 15:22: Louise discusses the importance of resilience and acknowledges the grieving process that parents may go through when their expectations for parenting differ from their reality. She emphasizes the need for professionals to understand and support parents during this process.
• 16:01: Louise encourages professionals to acknowledge and support parents through the grieving process that may arise from having a child with special needs.
• 17:03: Resilience is not about being Teflon or unaffected by challenges but rather accepting the circumstances and finding a way to move forward.
• 18:47: Having realistic expectations is important; Louise mentions how some people struggle with small everyday challenges, hindering their resilience.
• 19:23: Louise shares an example of someone becoming overly upset about getting the wrong shopping cart, emphasizing the need to move on from small inconveniences.
• 22:39: The learning tools, the literacy levels, and the care that is taken towards early young child literacy as well as the young adults, there are so many great books.
• 23:11: There are so many great books for parents and grandparents. As per Louise, a good book is one that she reads, and she is willing to stay past her bedtime to still be reading on the adult level.

3 Key Points:

1. Louise talks about her dedication to supporting children with disabilities and unique challenges, emphasizing the importance of seeing the world through different lenses and being inclusive.
2. Louise highlights the importance of pulling oneself up and moving forward with grace and dignity, without dwelling on the past.
3. Louise loves reviewing books, puzzles, games and traveling. She talks about picking out authors writing these children's books on levels that are very interesting to both parents and child.

Tweetable Quotes:

• "Resilience is not about being Teflon; it's about accepting what life throws at you and finding the strength to move forward." - Louise
• "Support from others can be the fuel that helps us build resilience in the face of challenges." - Louise
• "Sometimes the smallest things can feel monumental, hindering our ability to bounce back. Realistic expectations are key to fostering resilience." - Louise
• "Don't let minor inconveniences become volcanic eruptions. Keep your focus on what truly matters." - Louise
• "Resilience is not about avoiding pain; it's about facing it with grace and dignity and finding the courage to move forward." – Louise
• "There are a lot of books that I think are great for professionals as well, on topics like ADHD and autism." - Louise

Resources Mentioned

• Helping Families Be Happy Podcast Apple
• https://louisesattler.com/
• Podcast Editing

 

The Impact of Smart Phones on Kids: A Conversation with Jessica Speer

On today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Christopher Robbins, co-founder of Familius Publishing, husband, father of nine, author, fisherman, backpacker, and aspirational musician based in the Central Valley of California, is going to talk to Jessica Speer. She is an award-winning author known for her book "BFF or NRF? Not really friends: A Girl's Guide to Happy Friendships." Her books incorporate interactive elements and tackle social-emotional topics for preteens and teens. Jessica also has a forthcoming book called "The Phone: Stay Safe, be Smart and Make the World Better with That Powerful Device in Your Hand." 

 

Episode Highlights:

• 02:24: Christopher Robbins mentions his wife, who is a teacher. He explains that when she enters the classroom, all the kids have their phones with earbuds in. She is unsure whether they are paying attention, playing games, watching videos, etc.
• 02: Jessica shares that she started writing the book when her kids were preteens. She enjoys researching and exploring the experiences of kids and adolescents. Phones and technology have become prominent aspect of their lives.
• 03:50: Jessica focuses on writing directly to kids because she believes they are intelligent and prefer information in their language.
• 04:05: Jessica discusses the lack of clear guidelines and the need for families to navigate the challenges of introducing smartphones to children.
• 04:33: Christopher shares their family's rule of not getting a phone until college but acknowledges the current frustration of their son.
• 05:10: Jessica talks about the importance of self-control, maturity, and understanding how children use phones differently.
• 05:36: Jessica expresses surprise at the extent of what is still unknown about the impact of phones on kids. She mentions the recent advisory from the US Surgeon General regarding social media and mental health.
• 07:25: Jessica emphasizes the need for more research, guidelines, and support for families in navigating this challenge. She suggests open conversations, staying informed, and making rules that align with the family's values.
• 09:05: Jessica recommends taking time to think, considering the child's developmental stage and safety, and exploring alternative options like simplified communication devices.
• 09:53: Jessica encourages open conversations with children and emphasizes the importance of understanding their desires and concerns. She suggests discussing the available choices and incorporating knowledge about risks and safety.
• 10:01: Consider different options based on what the child truly wants and conclude by emphasizing the importance of ongoing dialogue and staying informed.
• 10:39: Jessica highlights the importance of ongoing dialogue and honest conversations with children regarding smartphones and their impact.
• 11:45: Christopher expresses interest in how the book helps navigate the issue of distinguishing truth from fiction online.
• 13:53: Jessica mentions sites like factchecker.com and discusses the importance of teaching kids how to identify reliable information.
• 14:18: Jessica emphasizes the need to educate kids about false information for profit.
• 14:57: Jessica introduces the topic of algorithms and their influence on information consumption, mentioning how they can lead to rabbit holes and addictive content.
• 16:01: Kids should be aware of how algorithms work and be proactive in choosing positive content to counteract the negative impact of rabbit holes.
• 16:39: Jessica shares a study called "Change Your Feed" which explores how kids can modify their algorithmic experience by deliberately choosing different content.
• 17:15: Christopher recalls his experience with early texting and learning the meaning of "LOL."
• 17:44: Christopher asks about slang terms used in text messaging and the chapter dedicated to text slang in the book.
• 20:25: Jessica emphasizes the power children have in using technology as a force for good and making the world a better place.

 

 

3 Key Highlights

1. Jessica shares how she decided to write a book that speaks directly to kids and also highlights the deeper, darker side of technology that we kind of learn over time.
2. Jessica highlights the ongoing lack of conclusive evidence regarding phones and the differences in guidelines and laws across countries.
3. Jessica explains the concept of FOMO (fear of missing out) and FOJI (fear of joining in) and how they can affect teenagers in the digital realm.

 

 

Tweetable Quotes

• "Kids are so smart and really like to hear this information directly, so I thought I'm going to try to write a book that speaks directly to them, kind of in their language." - Jessica
• "Phones offer awesome positive stuff, but we also need to address the deeper, darker side of technology that we learn over time." - Jessica
• "During the pandemic, as we got sucked into our phones, it was the perfect time for me to research and understand the evolving landscape of kids and technology." – Jessica
• "Teenagers can potentially manipulate algorithms for fun and amusement." - Christopher

 

 

Resources Mentioned

• Helping Families Be Happy Podcast Apple
• Familius.com
• JessicaSpeer.com
• Podcast Editing